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Protecting beneficiaries from themselves

15th Oct 2012

When preparing your will you may have to consider if your beneficiary is fit to deal with an inheritance or whether it will simply be frittered away. Rod Cunich of Slater & Gordon explains the safeguards you can take to minimise the risk.

Every family has its cross to bear. Whether it’s a child who has an alcohol, drug or gambling addiction, is a spendthrift, makes poor financial decisions, or is manipulated by a spouse, the outcome is the same; emotional and financial stress which plagues the family from one generation to the next. I’m often asked, “What will happen to my money in the hands of my wayward child when I pass?”

Parents come to me with concerns that a family member is likely to squander an inheritance, saying “I’ve decided to cut them out entirely as an inheritance will only make things worse.” It is tempting to agree on occasions; some situations are truly appalling. I practise my deep breathing and suggest that there may be options which fall between the two extremes of leaving money with no strings attached and leaving nothing.

If you are concerned that any inheritance you leave your offspring might be wasted away, here are a few ideas to consider:

1. Put strings on the money

If you doubt your child will make sound decisions about spending their inheritance you can put those decisions in the hands of someone else. In your will you can leave the money in a trust and appoint a competent and caring person to manage the funds for the benefit of your child. They get the benefit of using assets in the trust and perhaps enjoying an income stream, but they never get to spend or waste the capital.

2. Installments, not a lump sum

If you are hopeful that maturity will cure them of their ailment, you can prepare a will that staggers the payment of the inheritance to a child – for example, one-third at age 25, one-third at age 35, and the balance at age 40.

Alternatively, installment payments could be paid annually. Along similar lines, you could establish an annuity which is a contract with an insurance company that obligates the company to make payments to a beneficiary. Annuities are often used to provide retirement income, but you can direct payments to a child as well. You can arrange for regular payments of a set amount for a certain period of time, or variable payments that depend on investment of the underlying premium.

3. Establish incentives

Incentive trusts are designed to reward behavior you want and discourage that which you consider destructive. You can concentrate on the good behavior and arrange for payments to be conditional upon the child achieving specific goals, for example, obtaining a job or completing an alcohol rehab program or staying free from drugs. This type of arrangement has its complications because the trustee has to exercise judgment and would need you to set clear guidelines.

Leading Australian law firm Slater & Gordon has specialist estate planning lawyers who can provide you more information on ways to protect your inheritance. Call 1800 555 777 to get in touch with your local estate planning specialist or click here for more information.





Smee
16th Oct 2012
4:40pm
Sorry folks. This article is nothing but an advertisement for Gordon & Slater. Their ethics are in question and not just here. Ask our PM.
Life choices, you have just lowered your hitherto acceptable standard.
Bet you don't allow this one through.
smithjj
16th Oct 2012
5:13pm
Look on the bright side. When you're dead you wont give a damn anyway.
Ductape
16th Oct 2012
5:58pm
Yes but would you wnat the little buggers dancing on your grave to ABBA's song of -
Money, money, money!
fpbsix
16th Oct 2012
7:05pm
actually i found the advice helpful,expecially since i have 2 sons that are not reliable in there decisions , one has never worked his wife supports him & she spends all her teachers pay every week & they have over $20,000.00 in visa debt. another son sold his 2 businesses because he shifted into the mountains because he believes the end of the world will be in december 20012. i have out of 5 sons only (one ) that is sensible -a fitter-trainer -owns his own home and is careful with money is good to me treating me with love and respect,SO because the other sons are wasteful & rude & insulting to me & there brothers. i have made up a temporary will leaving the one good son everything i own.but I do feel a little sad about doing that .
Smee
17th Oct 2012
8:11am
Yesterday I posted a comment. Here's proof.
http://pickeringpost.com/article/gillard-files-missing-from-s--g-but-we-know-where-they-are-dont-we-mr-grech...-or-where-they-should-be/690
fish head
17th Oct 2012
11:02am
The problem of leaving offspring out of your will regardless of your reason is that it can open the will up to challenge. Far better to assign a minimal amount and say why clearly which might shame the recipient(s)into (a) not mounting a challange to prevent more public exposure (b) exercising some self improvement.
fpbsix
17th Oct 2012
11:27am
Thank you , yes I will do that today, i will leave the 2 sons the money that they got a loan off me and never paid back , I will also state that they can have all there insults & cruelity Back & i hope they injoy them. Also they didnt even offer to help me or ring me ,when LARRY & YASI damaged my home. I bought everything i own by myself , 2 of my daughter in laws are money hungry Phillipino's.one son & his children visit every 2nd year. because he lives 45 hours drive away.his partner is aussie.
PRETTY BIRD
17th Oct 2012
3:12pm
I agree wiht Smithjj, when your dead you wont know what is happening, and spend your money whilst you are on this earth , have a good time, travel if you can, and live in comfort and buy what you want to buy, its your money you earnt it, and give money to charity along the way, dont scrimp and save, spend it and enjoy, and some children are over nice to parents when they know the others are not, purely because they know of your plans to leave them more and they will say things about the others that are not true to get you on side, so be careful. What is left from ones estate I think should be split evenly between all children no matter what they are like, after all they are all flesh and blood, and as a mother we do understand that not all our kids are the same and they are not all good money managers and make sound decisions and just because one is better able to do those things, shouldnt mean they miss out on an inheritance , those are my thoughts anyway .
fpbsix
18th Oct 2012
11:29am
actually out of the 4 sons left most of them live states away from each other . & they dont keep in contact with each other, I dont understand why as i used to take the 5 boys 2wice a year to visit there relations and get the boys to help wrap all the xmas parcels to be sent to relations.and I think what hurt me so much was , the awful untrue things he had to say about Myself but also about his brother Russell who died on the 19th sep 2012 . And this is ONLY one of the many time's that = D & S , have been so degrading & rude to me .I agree KINDNESS & FORGIVNESS is important , BUT I think it isn't right to reward ,contempt & Insults .
CindyLou
17th Oct 2012
10:24pm
Don't wish to be negative, but I have to wonder what has happened in families such as 'fpbsix' ? There are two sides to every story or situation, if relationships with adult kids is poor it does no good for anyone to use a will to hurt some offspring and favour others. All that does is put a wedge between siblings. Sometimes parents can inadvertently treat adult kids differently, ie the golden son or daughter vs the other sibling who may be different.
What about compassion, kindness and forgiveness...you are a long time dead and it's only money.
fpbsix
18th Oct 2012
11:14am
I worked & paid for my home all by myself . only one son had done any repairs on my home . for FREE. 3 sons until now have never visited . but have written once a year ,or more often if they need something they say its too expensive to ring , i have been through 2 cyclones larry & Yasi left $70,000.00 damage to my home . & only ONE son cared enough to ring all night long on the mobile through Scary yasi . I ALWAYS send xmas & birthday presents . but only 2 sons sends me a lovely card .& photoes.and The son who sent me the Above letter told me straight , that everything I own is his Inheritence .I dont know why as hes never been here or never paid or done anything , & now he insults my decency. I refuse to REWARD him for Degraded me like that ! when I have always been Respectable !
toot2000
18th Oct 2012
2:46pm
I think it's a tragedy when a parents favours one child over another in a will, common sense tells us to share it out equally. So what if they blow all the money, it's theirs to do with what they want surely.
fpbsix
18th Oct 2012
7:16pm
if you would have read the above you would know, 2 of my sons have never in there adult life shown me any respect or love,& never even cared if i was alive or dead during or after Cyclone Larry or Cyclone Yasi.and YES it is a tragety & my fault that I spoilt them so bad.That is why there such selfish selfcentered men, and also that is right I did earn my own money , so I can do with it as I wish. so I will put a stop to there= Greed , Lies, Insults,my 5 children were born after I was married .so I dont need there rude insults, every year ,I married at 18 yrs old .& for 25 years I ended up in hospital from my husband bashing me up, & not until after the last son had left home with his apprentisthip finished did I get the courage to leave my marriage . I live alone & am happy for the first time in my 66years .so before a comment is made , Maybe people should think of all situations . Thanks .
toot2000
18th Oct 2012
7:55pm
Apologies fpbsix, your children don't deserve one cent of your hard-earned assets, except for one. The question was raised as to whether a parent should nominate some responsible person to keep money back from a child because they might not spend it wisely. I think that idea is abhorrent, but that doesn't apply in your case.
PRETTY BIRD
18th Oct 2012
11:00pm
Oh dear fpbsix, you have had a hard life by the sounds, and a terrible marriage and a cruel husband. That would totally explain why your sons are like they are, how one turned out decent I dont know, maybe he came along before or after the abuse, so you have to keep that in your mind, and you admitted you spoiled them, so some of the reason theose men are like they are us beacsue of their upbringing and you probably could not get out of the marriage, so it was a vicious circle and now those men probably treat their partners just like their old man treated you, and on it goes,, very sad
PRETTY BIRD
18th Oct 2012
11:03pm
AND IF YOU are talking about a small inheritance like a house and a bit of money then it is not worth you worrying about, just live your life and let them deal with all that when you are gone.Dont concern yourself about it whilst you are alive, forget about the ones who are not nice to you and be happy yourself
Pardelope
23rd Oct 2012
4:49pm
Unfortunately, if children (especially sons) see their mother or sisters being treated badly by other adults - particularly by the spouse/father - they do not learn love and respect. In fact they often go on to be greedy, demanding, cunning and cruel to other females and people in general.

There is also what is called "inheritance impatience" - in which children (and possibly other members of the family) are hoping to ensure they will be the only one to inherit - and the sooner the better. This happened to a friend of mine who is in her 70's. Her son would have inherited her (considerable) properties in her Will - but (at the urging of his father - her decades ago ex) the son tried to threaten her into signing over the biggest property (the one he and his family had lived on rent-free for years) into his name. He never showed the slightest concern for her (or his sister and her kids) - but kept an eye out (probably so he could be first into her properties if she became disabled or passed away). It all ended up in an expensive court case - but at least she saw his true colours and changed her will before she became dependent upon him for decisions about her care.

I would prefer to leave any money I have, to friends or relatives who have been supportive - and who are decent toward others. I keep quiet about what I have - and have left letters for each person with my Will. The Will and letters explain how I feel about each person (be it good or bad) and why I have made my Will out the way it is. I have also said that if there is any violence or suspicious circumstances around my death - that the money goes to charity. If any of them die before me, their share goes back into the pot i.e. it is not handed to their spouse/defacto/partner - or kids (the kids are their responsibility).

With those who are younger, you can stipulate that they do not get their share until they are 35 - by which time, hopefully they will be more mature - or until they have earned a Uni Degree - or held down a job for five or ten years.

My father used to say - the responsibility of parents ends after they have provided a good home and education opportunities. Anything else they get e.g. in a Will, is a bonus - not an entitlement. We learnt from a young age that we had to work for what we wanted - and that loans were not gifts. My brother (as and adult) failed to repay a loan to my parents (who were not at all wealthy) and thought he had got away with it after my father died. However, Dad had instructed Mum that if he did not repay the loan to her, she was to deduct it from anything she left to him. This is what happened - so he got less than my sister and me when she died years later. It was explained in her Will why he was getting less. With this explanation (and the fact that he was not dependent upon Mum e.g. disabled) he could not contest the Will.

I think your last responsibility is to yourself - and to try to prevent legal or other nastiness over your Will. If you don't have a reasonably fresh Will e.g. no more than five years old, the Will may not be effective in the way you wish. If you fail to leave a Will (with a trustworthy executor who will not benefit) your estate will be divided by law - which may mean that people who were good to you will miss out, whilst those who did not give a hoot about you will probably be saying "why didn't he/she leave me more"?

This may all sound rather negative, but long experience with Wills and estates has made me rather careful about the whole topic. People will fight over a chamois cloth and a useless American dictionary (this actually happened) so don't assume you don't need to be careful or prepared.

Try to be remembered as "that nice, smart and wise old lady/gentleman".
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