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Are we losing the art of solitude?

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8 yrs ago

Research suggests that rather than run from solitude we should actively seek it out, as it can improve mood, creativity and memory, and lower stress and agitation.

But in a hyper-connected world of being constantly on our phones and gadgets, and continually being bombarded with marketing messages, it seems we are losing the art of solitude.

I know as an introvert I crave for it, and seek it out, but at times feel guilty for this need.

What are your thoughts:

Do you enjoy solitude and make time for it?

Do you feel guilty for having alone time ?

As a society, do you think we’re becoming uncomfortable with spending time alone to relax/create?

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Sandi (SA)
8 yrs ago

Welcome to this part of the forum, Fast Eddie, Lesh, Tess10, Didi & Bandy,

Hope you come more often and join in our little group.  Plenty of topics in here and if one doesn't suit put your own in and we might join in.

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seth
8 yrs ago

Ditto to Sandi's welcome.........

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kfchugo
8 yrs ago

Solitude is hardly an "art"......more like a punishment. Usually, the crime we are being punished for is simply poor planning and I am as guilty of that as anyone.

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PlanB
8 yrs ago

I love Solitude, why KFC do you find it a punishment?

Think some people mistake solitude for lonliness. Solitude is a choice, lonliness is foisted on people.

My wife and I both love time to ourselves, so for us solitude is a joy,both have a couple of solo interests which provide the solitude we need and we respect each other for that

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PlanB
8 yrs ago

You are so right Ray,  I also think there are so many people that get into bad relationships because they hate to be on their own.

..and we experienced that first hand Plan B, with my wife's cousin a year after her divorce, despite advice from many she jumped into a relationship which nearly cost her every bit of her savings. She was too proud to let people know she was feeling lonely and thought wrongly that a rebound relationship was way to go..

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seth
8 yrs ago

your both right... their is a lot of GDs out there. just waiting...

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PlanB
8 yrs ago

Yes Ray I have known a few that have done that, even though warned, they also ended up VERY sorry

When I was young
I never needed anyone
And makin' love was just for fun
Those days are gone

Livin' alone
I think of all the friends I've known
But when I dial the telephone
Nobody's home

All by myself
Don't want to be, all by myself anymore
All by myself
Don't want to live, all by myself anymore

Hard to be sure
Some times I feel so insecure
And love so distant and obscure
Remains the cure

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