Great looks, sexuality, intelligence, and money - in that order.

Around age 18 when I was starting to get involved with the fairer sex my dad made a brief appearance in my life and over a beer told me to 'always make a girl smile, their lot in life is a damn side harder than ours'.

Good advice as it has proven to be.

He then wandered off again for a few more years, saw him briefly once more then no more. Cannot remember his last bit of advice, if there was any. Parental responsibility was not his strong suite. :-)

Take it easy.

SD

I am at age 66 presently on the dating scene. It is tough at this age cos let's face it we dont look as good as we did in our 20s and 30s but I sometimes feel that men expect that we should even though they are going to seed also!!  

I also wonder if after buying a lady a cup of $4 coffee that they expect an invite back to her home for more than coffee!!  Get real guys.

We all have baggage at this age and if we are smart we are also protecting what we have acquired for our children so no wool will be pulled over my eyes!!

By the looks of those overall, low scores, people have dropped their standards.

Thank you Pamiea.. thought it was me that felt uncomfortable about the coffee committment.

...... and thank you for the laugh Fast Eddie.

No.1  Sense of Humour

No. 2  Physical attraction

No.3  good manners and presentation

No. 4  not a drunk

No.5   a non smoker

No.6   financially secure 

As I have no intention of every marrying again or living with anyone it does not matter any more.

I would prefer to have  a male as a friend only now as do most women of my age and I would always pay my own way...no obligation then.

1 30 years old 

2 long legs 

3 big tits 

Not that I am looking.

Personal Hygiene

Manners  

Intelligence   

NOT A FOOTBALL nut 

Non gambler Non smoker and drinker –ok to have a wine etc with a meal

Sense of humour

Quietly confident

Looks and body shape unimportant

Kind and fair dinkum

In some instances people probably 'miss out' getting to know the person meant for them, because the feeling is not there of wanting to get to know him/her.  First impressions are not always the 'be all and end all' and behind the exterier is someone well worth 'getting to know'.

Perhaps looking through to a person's soul and seeing something wonderful. I guess something just has to 'click' lol. 

Also taking time to get to know a person --as past behavior is a good indication of future behavior

My list is so long…good thing I’m not looking!!

A gentleman /  strong but quiet / sense of humour / positive outlook on life

Honest / direct/ person with integrity

Lovely manners but the ability to also adapt to any situation

Good looking / looks after his health

A good listener

Intelligent  / thoughtful

Of independent means

Not impossible to find …married to one!!

No relationship is perfect but certainly some have a smoother path than others. If I was starting to date all over again I would look first and foremost at a potential partner's ability to empathise with my feelings and at their ability to express their own feelings openly. Secondly, shared values (especially honesty) in many ways would be important because my sense of self is very closely aligned to my values. I think shared values has probably been one of the greatest strengths in my marriage and also in my very close friendships. I have always considered my hubby to be pretty sexy (yes, even into older age) but that is sort of a bonus because I have found many men attractive who share my values and are sensitive, empathic and caring, regardless of sex appeal. So I probably would not place too much importance on looks. I am also attracted to autonomy...people who stand tall as their own well developed person and have no need of status to describe their sense of being in the world.

I like a man who looks out for those around him, family, friends, even strangers.  An honest, kind man and who has a tremendous sense of humour. Someone who is romantic and brings me flowers for no reason. One who looks at me and finds anything I say interesting. I like a man who’s full of life and always has a project going. One who loves animals as much as I do. One who is not driven by love of money, but finds pleasure in the work he does. One who loves the ocean.

I’m blessed.

I have been happily married twice, both marvellous, beautiful, but very different women to the other.

Maybe it is just what oneself makes of it and less about the other person and their attributes.

Take it easy.

SD