A boot up the backside and 600 bucks a week.

Nan Norma

It all depends on your situation  whether you like having him there and whether you can afford the increased costs involved.

If you do not like to charge him rent perhaps you could get him and the girlfriend to do chores around the house you no longer can do.

Whatever you do do not lend him any money.

I would give him a weekly bill  for       Light    gas   water    use of room      washing machine   &  food

    also extra for girl friend staying ,he should be paying you 1/3 of his wages  if he objects say on your way

I think he is lousy

It's really up to you Nan Norma. Do you wan't him to stay or would you rather he be independent? Do you want to help him save money or are you feeling used? Spend some time working out what you feel, think and want and then have a good talk to him. If you are happy for him to stay ideally you will negotiate with each other what fair payment might be.

As an amateur cook, why not be like me! just be happy, that you have someone, who will eat your cooking. If you get money, then you are  in front.

Ask for board PLUS his share of the phone / Elect / Gas/ water.  Also I would NOT be allowing him to bring "Girl friends"  (unless they were of a long commitment)  home to stay either --these "kids"  (and they are your "kids") take it forgranted  

BECAUSE THEY ARE ALLOWED TO  --

believe me you are NOT doing them any favours as when they HAVE to depend on themselves they will have NO idea how to, I have seen this happen Sooooooooo many times.

I know it is so very hard to say NO but you have to for you sake and also his and in the end he will respect you for it.

I know it can be hard confronting one's own children but he hasn't been fair to you and his dad by breaking the agreement. I would be tempted to ask "Well what are these financial commitments that are more important than doing the decent thing by us?" It will help you to be clear about your own feelings and how willing or not you are to help him if he is open with you. 

Many adult kids when they move back home, do so "to save" or to "party" so confronted with a good big chunk of money for food, lodging and utilities say "no way, may as well have my own place".

If it works, good :) if it dosent and he chooses to stay, at least you have to be helped with a decent amount so you are not out of pocket. Maybe say " I am going to have to advertise for a lodger as expenses are high and I need the cash, but if you want to pay your share, we can do that.

Seggie.  Definitely not fair. He must pay a share of the electricity, gas, water and council rates. If he is employed, of course he should help out and as for his girlfriend spending weekends, oh no. No wonder he stays. When he says his mates don't pay, tell him to go and live with them. Don't send him to me as I'd change the locks. Very very unfair.

Thank you. Some of your answers have been very helpful.