I read with interest Brony Gordon’s article Cleanliness: my substitute for godliness in The Telegraph, London, for two reasons. Firstly, why would researchers do a study on how women feel about cleaning and how long they spend doing it? Secondly, why would anyone keep their love of cleaning secret?
OK, I actually do understand why anyone would undertake a study of women’s cleaning habits; they’re paid to do so by some company which manufactures cleaning products or appliances.
But why would women who enjoy cleaning keep it a secret from their partners? Brony Gordon suggests that this is a reaction against the sexist stereotype of the 50s housewife who loves nothing better than taking care of her husband and family. But then what’s so wrong about this?
Many women work today through financial necessity, or as they no longer feel the pressure to procreate, their career becomes a replacement for the children they will never have. However, if a woman can afford to, and has the desire to do so, is it wrong to want to be a housewife and mother? Imagine if all the women (and the smaller percentage of men) who stayed at home to look after a home and children were paid a salary? Who could afford to pay that amount of money?
It seems that many people in modern society believe that it is OK to pay a cleaner and for childcare yet the thought of doing such a job themselves is beneath them. Go figure!
I am a working mother, not the righteous ‘I can do it all’ type, but the ‘two incomes are better than one’ type. I cook (sometimes), I clean (occasionally) and I work hard (often). I don’t ask for praise but I do expect some recognition from my family – a little thanks goes a long way. Am I any different to the women who stay at home – no. They too work hard and deserve just as much thanks as I do, as well as recognition that they have the right to enjoy what they do.
Should women be ashamed of choosing motherhood over a career?