Focus on grief – memorialisation

Memorialising those we have lost is a trait we humans have practiced for thousands of years.

Focus on grief – memorialisation

Memorialising those we have lost is a trait we humans have practiced for thousands of years, as suggested by one of the oldest intentional burial sites known to date: a cave found in Qafzeh, Israel in 1933 contained the remains of as many as 15 individuals, along with suggestions of a burial ritual. The age of this burial site is estimated to be 100,000 years old.

To this day, cemeteries and memorials still play a deeply significant role in our lives. That is, they’re not just the physical material of which they’re made – e.g. stone, bronze, glass and the like – but much, much more: they represent history, emotion, tribute and a legacy of social customs.

Memorials offer a way for people to put thoughts and feelings into a physical, more tangible form. This helps with the grieving process, as it creates a space where people may feel it is more acceptable to express emotions. Not just at the time of loss, but also when special days come around each year, such as birthdays and anniversaries.

In the modern world, there is no shortage of ways in which you can remember your loved one. Some ideas include:

An online memorial
A virtual memorial can be handy, especially if you need to make the memorial accessible to family and friends spread over the globe. This way they are not limited by their location to pay their respects or connect with others who knew the deceased. 

To create an online memorial, visit HeavenAddress, a site that allows you to create a personalised memorial page of your loved one to which you can invite whomever you wish to visit or add memories.

A physical memorial
This is a traditional way to memorialise a loved one, but with many more options nowadays. The memorial can be as personal as you wish and can accommodate cultural and religious needs. It could be something as simple as chair or lawn burial to something more stately, such as a gazebo or mausoleum.

MyMemorial offers plenty of physical memorial options and memorial parks in NSW and Qld.

A memorial in words
Grief is very personal. For some, memorialising a loved one is done internally and individually. If this is your preference, you may find MyGriefAssist helpful. It is a website where you’ll find a vast range of helpful resources on grief and loss, such as videos, factsheets, stories, list of books and movies, meditations, songs and poems, quotes, and links.


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    10th Dec 2015
    I do not need any Head stones or plaques to remember any of my lost loved ones they are always in my heart, I have none of these for any of my loved ones and when I go there will be no fuss and no bother and a cardboard coffin. I will be remembered by those who wish to remember me, remembrance is like love it can not be forced.
    10th Dec 2015
    I totally agree with you PlanB that is exactly my way of thinking too. I don't want any fuss or bother either and would prefer a cardboard coffin. Like you say those who want to remember you can do so if they wish. My parents passed away in the UK not being at either of their funerals they are always close to me in my heart.
    10th Dec 2015
    Yes to true my Husband is on the top overlooking the water in a beautiful spot with nothing to say where but the family and friends know

    10th Dec 2015
    Food for thought: How many huge, glossy, gaudy, tawdry cemetery markers/monuments are erected to try to cleanse the consciences of those left living rather than to pay respect, love, and memory to those they are erected for?
    10th Dec 2015
    Dead right there Eddie in a lot of cases, a Friend's Husband treated --my Friend in an awful way but when she died -- at the age of 38, he gave her the biggest most expensive funeral that lasted most of the day.

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