I’ve been asked to write a eulogy – what do I do?

Giving a eulogy is all about speaking from the heart.

Fountain pen and paper being used to write a eulogy

A eulogy is a speech delivered at a funeral and these days a personalised eulogy is an important part of a funeral service that really speaks to the life, interests, and passions of someone we knew.

For many people, though, the prospect of speaking in public brings a fear that is almost equal to the fear of death itself, which is why White Lady Funerals has shared with us some tips on how to write and deliver a eulogy.

Types of eulogy
A eulogy can be delivered as a formal speech which includes the person’s history, career and achievements. It can also be made more personal, through the sharing of stories, memories and anecdotes, or it can be a combination of these two styles.

How to write a eulogy
Allow yourself some time to write it, and don’t worry too much if your thoughts are a little unstructured at first. You can pull old photos, letters and other memorabilia together, which can help trigger positive memories. You can also talk to close family and friends for more ideas or to agree on what is important.

How to deliver a eulogy
Once you have put some thoughts together, you need to start thinking about the beginning, the middle, and the end. Try putting the elements you wish to you into a rough draft and then you can start to polish and review it. Practice saying it out loud.

Most importantly, the eulogy you are writing doesn’t have to be a perfect piece of writing or speech craft, it only needs to reflect the life of the person you knew. And you don’t have to worry about your emotions during the speech as no-one is judging you.

More information on how to write a eulogy is available on the White Lady Funerals website.


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    5th Jun 2016
    This might not fit into the article's intent, but I have always thought that it is better by far to tell the person what you think of them when they are alive and able to appreciate your thoughts, than to wait until they are gone, and tell someone else.

    If you think someone is kind, thoughtfull, wise, clever or whatever - say it to them. If you think they are a ratbag, don't bother, but why are you wasting your precious time with them anyway...
    5th Jun 2016
    always speak of others as you would wish to be spoken about by others
    6th Jun 2016
    I would have loved help like this when I needed it. Its always lovely to hear a eulogy that tells you about someone's life. It's amazing how critical the family are when its not done as they expected. If its my own eulogy I will be just happy someone has taken the time and wanted to do it for me.
    7th Jun 2016
    While I am still sane and have my marbles intact I will be doing my own eulogy and recording it in my own words to be played at my funeral when I snuff it.
    And of course i will be adding a lot of humour (which helps) as well !!!

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