Does personalising a funeral make a difference?

A funeral planned with your wishes in mind makes it easier for your family.

Releasing doves to remember a loved one

Will your final send-off capture the essence of your life, to share with those who knew you, or will it stand out because so much was left unsaid and uncelebrated?

More than 3400 individuals responded to a recent online Grief and Loss survey and their responses show that many of us are giving deep thought to our final send-off yet too many haven’t taken any further steps.

Ninety-two per cent of respondents have given thought to their own death and 67 per cent have some specific end of life wishes; including regarding who should deliver the eulogy, whether or not to include photographs or video into the funeral service, as well as other funeral aspects such as who should be pallbearers, ideas for the wake, and even what vehicles to use.  

Yet when it comes to locking in all of these personal choices, to create a funeral service we would be happy to share with others, only 41 per cent have taken a step towards communicating those wishes.

So the first significant benefit to come from personalising your funeral is that your express wishes and choices will be followed, allowing you to share what you would like; be it a colourful theme for the service; or perhaps your choice of your favourite place as the venue for the funeral.

The next significant benefit of personalising your funeral is that you will have left a legacy of care for those you will leave behind, with your express choices relieving them from making important decisions during the often tumultuous time that follows a loved one’s passing.

The best way to record your wishes so that they will become the elements of an actual funeral service is with a prepaid funeral plan. White Lady Funerals is offering a special offer of $500* off their prepaid funeral plans, to make it even easier for you to ensure your wishes and take care of those who you leave behind.

*Terms and conditions: Does not apply to any other promotional offer. The discount of $500 applies to the funeral directors professional fees only. Valid for a prepaid funeral contract signed by 31 July 2016.


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    5th Jun 2016
    The more I see funeral companies flooding sites for older people with opportunistic advertising, greedily capitalising on people's sorrow and grief, the more I want as simple a funeral as possible, or no funeral at all.

    How do I arrange the latter?
    9th Dec 2017
    I get where you are coming from as you'll see from my post further on, but I must put in a good word for White Lady funerals. My Mum had a prepaid funeral with then, and had chosen everything that she wanted. We didn't have to do very much at all, for which we were very grateful at the time. I'll admit that I don't know the cost, but they certainly did a lovely job.
    5th Jun 2016
    (I think) GIve your body to science. medical students need practice......

    I want to be buried and a tree planted on top and no plaque etc.. it is damned costly too. My father wanted to go under the roses..... maybe a sea burial ...... ?
    9th Dec 2017
    I've already arranged to give my body to science, and have a card that I carry in my wallet. I have asked to be sent to the "body farm" rather than being cut up by students. The normal time they keep the body is 4 years and when they have finished with it, it is cremated. The family can then decide if they want the ashes back or it they are interred at UTS.

    I think it's a great idea. Once the kids realised that they could still have a memorial service, they are on board with me as well. I am hoping that once my body comes back, they can do the thing where the ashes are planted with a tree - just have to find out if that's ok where we want to do it.

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