The top 10 biggest turn-ons and turn-offs for men and women

If you want to play the game of love, you'd better know the rules.

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I’m no expert on the game of love, but I do know this: if you want to play the game, you'd better know the rules.

Now, you may be diving back into the fray or you may have been in a relationship for years. Whatever your situation, knowing the biggest turn-ons and turn-offs for men and women will either help get your proverbial foot in the door, or make your relationship that much better.

These are in no set order and have been sourced from across the internet – so don’t shoot the messenger!

Turn-ons for women

1. Being generous

2. Being a good kisser

3. Having a good sense of humour and a nice smile

4. Being chivalrous and polite

5. Confidence

6. Doing housework

7. Playing with her hair and massage

8. Good grooming and fashion sense

9. Actively listening

10. Intelligence

Turn-offs for women

1. Poor taste in footwear

2. Being pompous and cocky

3. Being uncircumcised and not ‘manscaping’

4. Being dumb

5. Being selfish

6. Too aggressive during sex

7. Bad driving

8. Being a pushover

9. Being insecure or oversensitive

10. Being boring

Turn-ons for men

1. Smell of food cooking

2. Being handy with tools

3. Wearing matching lingerie

4. Doing yoga

5. Wearing red

6. Telling dirty jokes

7. Being a good driver

8. Making first contact

9. Being appreciated

10. Playing with his hair or stroking his head

10. Being affectionate

Turn-offs for men

1. Long fingernails

2. Nagging or talking too much

3. Poor hygiene

4. Eating with your mouth open

5. Flirting with other men

6. Being mean and bitchy

7. Wearing too much perfume

8. Discussing ex-boyfriends

9. Baby talk and calling him pet names in public

10. Being too ‘handsy’ in public

So, how do you rate on the turn-on/turn-off scale? Do you agree with these assessments? Or do you find other things more annoying/alluring?

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    11th Jul 2019
    3. Being uncircumcised and not ‘manscaping’
    I assume this was your self conscious way of saying not washing under your foreskin.
    11th Jul 2019


    the removal or trimming of hair on a man's body for cosmetic purposes.
    "say what you will about manscaping—the woolly mammoth died out for a reason"
    11th Jul 2019
    "not washing under your foreskin", hahaha

    NO, as jackie has said the clearing of the forest.
    Karl Marx
    12th Jul 2019
    Some women are also guilty of allowing the jungle to grow rampant. Some women I know refuse to shave legs etc, that's a turn off for all men I know.
    12th Jul 2019
    .. and the hairs on 'er dickie-die-die, hang down to her knees....

    Apparently Hobbits don't mind hairy legs - but anyway - when did it become the convention that women should have no natural hair on their legs? Just asking... I've met one with the hairy legs and it IS odd to me...
    11th Jul 2019
    So thats how I went wrong
    Karl Marx
    11th Jul 2019
    Opposite sex being fat or obese is a number 1 turn off. Shudder at the thought, but then again there are those that like being a feeder.
    Being uncircumcised, most of the women asked must of been jewish or muslim
    11th Jul 2019
    OlderandWiser, fat is a turnoff and it ruins the furniture.

    You could be right about the survey respondents.

    In recent years the rate of circumcision in Australia has fallen and it is now estimated that around 32 percent of Australian men under 30 are circumcised. The Royal Australasian College of Physicians (RACP) issued an updated policy statement on male circumcision in September 2010.
    11th Jul 2019
    True OAW, and circumcision is not a natural thing and totally unnecessary.
    12th Jul 2019
    When I was in the ADF a lot of my compatriots had to undergo circumcision as grown men, was not uncommon. Whether this is also true for the civilian population I do not know. It may be that servicemen are more open about such things due to the lack of privacy in barracks and communal ablutions and bush bivouacs.
    11th Jul 2019
    What this survey says is that different people like or dislike different things. So in other words just be yourself so that whoever is attracted to you can decide whether they want to stay or go. Those who stay want to find out more. Those who go, you know you weren't compatible with and so neither party has wasted their time.
    11th Jul 2019
    It's what's worn under the kilt that matters.. and it's all in perfect working order....
    11th Jul 2019
    Don't agree with many of them, everyone is different and every one places more importance on some things than others, each to it's own, I would not follow this advice one bit, find out for yourself and communicate, communication is the key to everything.
    11th Jul 2019
    So men don't like long fingernails, try telling this to the thousands of women who let their nails grow long and paint them.
    11th Jul 2019
    musicveg, the fake nail salons would all be out of business if that was correct.
    12th Jul 2019
    Beware the shrew.... hard to tame ....... and not worth the trouble....

    11th Jul 2019
    Had to ask a sister what this 'manscaping' meant - WTF?? De-forestation? What's wrong with au natural?

    And a preference for helmet head over full bore? Amazing....
    11th Jul 2019
    Poor footwear? Good thing I just bought some new shoes then, eh? Even my doctor lady today said I was all dressed up for something .. usually I show up in trackies... warmer, but not cold today.

    12th Jul 2019
    US sourced and concocted by a magazine on a slow news day?
    The claimed support for male genital mutilation - what mother would subject her defenseless infant to that? - is a dead giveaway. Any nurses on here to comment?

    The biggest turn-off for women has consistently been shown to be poor hygiene. So, walk closer to the soap and more often. Absolutely wash those hands.

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