The top 10 biggest turn-ons and turn-offs for men and women

If you want to play the game of love, you'd better know the rules.

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I’m no expert on the game of love, but I do know this: if you want to play the game, you'd better know the rules.

Now, you may be diving back into the fray or you may have been in a relationship for years. Whatever your situation, knowing the biggest turn-ons and turn-offs for men and women will either help get your proverbial foot in the door, or make your relationship that much better.

These are in no set order and have been sourced from across the internet – so don’t shoot the messenger!

Turn-ons for women

1. Being generous

2. Being a good kisser

3. Having a good sense of humour and a nice smile

4. Being chivalrous and polite

5. Confidence

6. Doing housework

7. Playing with her hair and massage

8. Good grooming and fashion sense

9. Actively listening

10. Intelligence

Turn-offs for women

1. Poor taste in footwear

2. Being pompous and cocky

3. Being uncircumcised and not ‘manscaping’

4. Being dumb

5. Being selfish

6. Too aggressive during sex

7. Bad driving

8. Being a pushover

9. Being insecure or oversensitive

10. Being boring

Turn-ons for men

1. Smell of food cooking

2. Being handy with tools

3. Wearing matching lingerie

4. Doing yoga

5. Wearing red

6. Telling dirty jokes

7. Being a good driver

8. Making first contact

9. Being appreciated

10. Playing with his hair or stroking his head

10. Being affectionate

Turn-offs for men

1. Long fingernails

2. Nagging or talking too much

3. Poor hygiene

4. Eating with your mouth open

5. Flirting with other men

6. Being mean and bitchy

7. Wearing too much perfume

8. Discussing ex-boyfriends

9. Baby talk and calling him pet names in public

10. Being too ‘handsy’ in public

So, how do you rate on the turn-on/turn-off scale? Do you agree with these assessments? Or do you find other things more annoying/alluring?

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    11th Jul 2019
    3. Being uncircumcised and not ‘manscaping’
    I assume this was your self conscious way of saying not washing under your foreskin.
    11th Jul 2019
    "not washing under your foreskin", hahaha

    NO, as jackie has said the clearing of the forest.
    Karl Marx
    12th Jul 2019
    Some women are also guilty of allowing the jungle to grow rampant. Some women I know refuse to shave legs etc, that's a turn off for all men I know.
    11th Jul 2019
    So thats how I went wrong
    Karl Marx
    11th Jul 2019
    Opposite sex being fat or obese is a number 1 turn off. Shudder at the thought, but then again there are those that like being a feeder.
    Being uncircumcised, most of the women asked must of been jewish or muslim
    11th Jul 2019
    True OAW, and circumcision is not a natural thing and totally unnecessary.
    12th Jul 2019
    When I was in the ADF a lot of my compatriots had to undergo circumcision as grown men, was not uncommon. Whether this is also true for the civilian population I do not know. It may be that servicemen are more open about such things due to the lack of privacy in barracks and communal ablutions and bush bivouacs.
    11th Jul 2019
    What this survey says is that different people like or dislike different things. So in other words just be yourself so that whoever is attracted to you can decide whether they want to stay or go. Those who stay want to find out more. Those who go, you know you weren't compatible with and so neither party has wasted their time.
    11th Jul 2019
    Don't agree with many of them, everyone is different and every one places more importance on some things than others, each to it's own, I would not follow this advice one bit, find out for yourself and communicate, communication is the key to everything.
    11th Jul 2019
    So men don't like long fingernails, try telling this to the thousands of women who let their nails grow long and paint them.
    5th Nov 2020
    I agree folks.
    Men who let themselves go..... , hairy nostrils and ears, obese/a beer gut and not paying attention to basic hygiene.
    This applies to clothing too... a sour smell.

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