Grandson’s inappropriate girlfriend

Richard is worried about his grandson’s first girlfriend, due to her poor reputation. Jo Lamble advises on whether or not he should talk to his grandson.

Q. Richard
My grandson has his first serious girlfriend and I was shocked when he brought her to meet me. I’m sure she’s the girl who many of the men down the local bowling club talk about being a little free with her favours. I’ve even heard she’ll pleasure older men for money. Should I tell my grandson?

I’m hoping that what you’ve heard about your grandson’s girlfriend is just gossip. If not, it’s going to be a stressful watching to see what happens with this relationship. I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell your grandson about the rumours. He may not listen and it might damage your relationship with him. I would encourage you to talk to him about what he likes about her. Ask him what he values in a relationship. Ask him if this girl brings out the best in him and vice versa. Use your position as his wise grandfather to give him some sage relationship advice without commenting on this particular girl. Keep it general and allow him to make his own decision and then cross your fingers that it will all be all right.

Jo Lamble

Written by Jo Lamble