New age nanas

What does becoming a grandmother in the 21st century really mean?

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Becoming a grandmother for the first time is as daunting as it is exciting, but what does becoming a grandmother in the 21st century really mean? Susan Moore has a taste of what you can expect.

Are you over 60? Imagine this exercise (don’t actually do it!): lift a case of wine off the floor to your shoulder and put it back down again. Repeat about 20 times over a couple of hours, and in between lifts, walk around with the case for half an hour, occasionally interspersed with sitting and standing again from a low armchair. How are your knees feeling? What about your back? Now mentally replace that case of wine with a wriggling 10-15kg toddler, and you’re back in the world of childcare, except that you’re 30 or 40 years older than when you did it the first time. Welcome to grandparenting!

There’s no doubt that becoming a grandparent is a joyous event; all the more so if you’re able to take an active role in your grandchild’s life. Many new grandparents find the experience gives them a new lease of life and sense of purpose. This is especially the case if they are fit and healthy enough to be ‘hands on’ with the grandkids – able to cope with the physical demands of baby minding and supervision of toddlers as well as keeping up with the energy levels and playfulness of young children.

My colleague, Doreen Rosenthal, and I, inspired by our own grandparenting experiences, recently conducted a study of over 1000 Australian grandmothers. The results are shortly to be published in book form as New Age Nanas: Grandmothering in the 21st Century. We’re following up with similar research on grandfathers. The average age of those we studied was mid-60s and typically they’d first become grandparents in their mid- to late-50s. These ages - the 50s, 60s and beyond - can be times of excellent health and abundant energy, especially in this era of good medical care and understanding of the importance of a healthy lifestyle. And indeed, more than 80 percent of our grandmothers and grandfathers described their health as good to excellent, reporting that illness did not impact on their ability to be the kind of grandparent they wanted to be.

But it is important to keep in mind that energy levels and endurance gradually decline with age, and health problems can intervene. Some of our respondents found they had to tailor their grandparenting role to quieter, more passive pursuits because of conditions ranging from the very serious (cancer, stroke), to less severe (sore feet) and from the chronic (arthritis, bad backs, asthma, obesity) to the temporary (broken limbs, recent knee replacement). Tiredness was a common complaint, even among fit and healthy grandparents. There was awareness of the need to be especially vigilant about bending or lifting, to protect backs, knees and muscles, and to maintain sensible eating and exercise regimes and preventive measures like routine medical tests and flu injections.

The thrill and excitement of a new grandchild inspired some grandparents to work harder at getting fit, so they could ‘keep up’, keep involved and live to see these precious new arrivals grow to maturity. And as our lifespan continues to increase and we learn better ways to combat the diseases of ageing, our potential to be not only healthy grandparents but with-it great grandparents becomes stronger and stronger.

Article written by Susan Moore, co-author New Age Nanas: Grandmothering in the 21st Century

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    chertl
    15th May 2012
    6:49pm
    As a grandmother I would mind my 3 grandkids from very young ages while their mother worked, You have more patience and can enjoy them more. Now I am looking after my great grandson who is now about 8 and a half months and it is a joy to be with. Yes I do get tired and he does get heavy but watching him develope new skills every day is rewarding. He has the cheekiest grin and red hair so I can see him leading me a merry dance as he grows up. I wouldn't trade this for the world and hope I can stay healthy enough to see him grow up. I love him and all my family very much.
    Janetta
    15th May 2012
    8:27pm
    Hey yes, I have been looking after twin grandsons for 10 years now, one of whom has autism. Due to a recent heart attack I have been replaced by a nanny. And now I can become just a granny, not nanny. It is lovely to still be called on and help out at weekends etc without the full on responsibility. Other grandkids who are all grown up take me out for lunch!! Its a great life.
    chertl
    17th Jan 2015
    11:49am
    Updating my previous post, I am still looking after my great grandson and what a joy he is. He is now 3 yrs and 5 months and growing into a very happy contented little man. I feel we will have another musician in the family as he plays his little ukulele and sings. In the car he knows quite a lot of the words to some songs and we sing along together. Very car racing mad as there are speedway people in the family. Thanking my granddaughter for allowing me to be his carer while she works.


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