Research shows that couples who share house chores have more sex

Research reveals the secrets of couples who have more sex.

New research shows that couples who share the load around the house have more sex.

The study, A Reversal in Predictors of Sexual Frequency and Satisfaction in Marriage, found that couples who share housework equally have sex, on average, 6.8 times per month. This is compared to about five times per month for couples where one partner does much more housework than the other.

The study’s author, Cornell University Professor Sharon Sassler, suggests that couples who don’t abide by sexist stereotypes share a ‘deepened desire’.

"Contemporary couples who adhere to a more egalitarian division of labour are the only couples who have experienced an increase in sexual frequency compared to their counterparts of the past," said Professor Sassler. "Other groups – including those where the woman does the bulk of the housework - have experienced declines in sexual frequency. This finding is particularly notable given reports indicating that sexual frequency has generally declined worldwide over the past few decades."

Routine housework, according to Prof. Sassler, is defined as preparing and cooking meals, washing dishes and grocery shopping. Sex increased not only when the load was shared equally, but also if the chores were divided into non-gender stereotypes, such as the man cooking and the woman doing handyman chores.

“Love used to be seen as the attraction of opposites, and each partner in a marriage specialised in a unique set of skills, resources, and emotions that, it was believed, the other gender lacked. Today, love is based on shared interests, activities, and emotions. Where difference was once the basis of desire, equality is increasingly becoming erotic,” said historian Stephanie Coontz. “In marriages of the 1950s and 1960s, wives often reported having sex more often than they wanted because they were dependent on their husbands. Now that women feel free to say no, they are more likely to say yes when they feel the relationship is fair.”

According to another study, The Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia (Hilda) survey, even when men participate in routine household duties, there is still an unequal distribution of chores, with the female partner always bearing the heavier load.

In Australian households where the man is the main breadwinner, women undertake 27.6 hours of housework each week, with men doing 14.5 hours. In households where both partners earn equal amounts, women do 20.3 hours’ worth of chores while men do 15 hours. In households where the woman is the main earner, men do 17.6 hours while the woman still bears the heavier burden at 21.5 hours per week.

So, the next time you’re asked to do something around the house, don’t get stroppy. Just think about the reward …

Read about the study at www.contemporaryfamilies.org

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    particolor
    24th Jun 2016
    11:09am
    Not a Great Deal of Participant's here ?? Must be Shy ? :-)
    particolor
    24th Jun 2016
    11:34am
    Did the Dishes, Vacuumed and made the Bed !! And now She sais She doesn't want to muck the bed up ?? :-( :-( :-(
    maelcolium
    24th Jun 2016
    11:20am
    No where did I put that damn vacuum cleaner?

    24th Jun 2016
    11:26am
    If you think taking the bin out to the street will get you a sexual "thank you", don't do it together or you may get arrested.
    TREBOR
    24th Jun 2016
    12:33pm
    I'd love to share house chores.. but as the full-timer carer for an increasingly disabled ex, it is a bit hard to get her to do very much, though she tries mightily....

    As for sex at this time - what's that?
    particolor
    24th Jun 2016
    12:44pm
    Youll find it in the Dictionary between Sewage and Sexagenarian !
    :-) :-)
    Aussie
    24th Jun 2016
    4:01pm
    need some phone numbers for assistance ???? let me know
    Aussie
    24th Jun 2016
    3:59pm
    Come on Come sex is healthy for the body spirit and mind provide you happiness and great times alone with a nice glass of good quality wine ...that is life and enjoyment
    and hey there are pill to help if a problem and they also help you with your blood circulation (I read a few articles about it) great stuff
    Be a practitioner is fun ...sorry particolor not shy ...they are not open mind still in the closet
    Anonymous
    24th Jun 2016
    4:26pm
    im not sure about that pill Aussie what happens if you stiffen up and can't get the damm thing down.
    Aussie
    24th Jun 2016
    6:20pm
    Well then just rest 5 min chat glass of wine then relax start again ..guarantee power of enjoyment
    Rosret
    24th Jun 2016
    4:44pm
    Yep - a man pushing a vacuum cleaner around the house is a definite aphrodisiac. He just need to finish before hubby comes come.
    Aussie
    24th Jun 2016
    6:34pm
    Come an stay in an Asian country women do not allow you to do any or very minimum house work they get offended if you start cleaning. you have to ask if you want to cook something by yourself they are happy for you to share knoledge but not to do.
    Is not been a servent is a cultural thing women are the house boss we are not that way they are always very very happy
    Conserned
    24th Jun 2016
    6:43pm
    That is true, the more jobs you do around the house, the more kisses and hugs you get from your wife and that that does relate to more romance in the bed. It is amazing after being married for the second time after being on my own for twenty years, making up for those years sure is fun !!!!!!!
    Aussie
    24th Jun 2016
    6:47pm
    Same here mate I do small things when allowed he he and always get tremendous responses he he
    Anonymous
    25th Jun 2016
    9:41am
    You two sound like you have it made good luck to you all.
    Aussie
    25th Jun 2016
    10:37pm
    Thanks Robbo yes we have make it Ok still alive and fully functioning no worries there mate .... Come on and join us in the great Asian continent of happiness he he he
    Aussie
    25th Jun 2016
    10:37pm
    Thanks Robbo yes we have make it Ok still alive and fully functioning no worries there mate .... Come on and join us in the great Asian continent of happiness he he he
    Not Senile Yet!
    25th Jun 2016
    5:38am
    Nonsense....stay at home dad's I know....say that their partner's are too tired after a hard day at work!
    Can remember when I was too buggered/tired as well!
    It'sounds more about hrs & stress for both!
    Not Senile Yet!
    25th Jun 2016
    5:38am
    Nonsense....stay at home dad's I know....say that their partner's are too tired after a hard day at work!
    Can remember when I was too buggered/tired as well!
    It'sounds more about hrs & stress for both!
    Young Simmo
    25th Jun 2016
    6:58pm
    Have you read that book yet.
    " How to do it, and not get it ".
    BY
    " One who done it, and got it ".
    Magnolia
    27th Jun 2016
    2:17pm
    and if single??????
    Aussie
    27th Jun 2016
    6:14pm
    Even better you have choices and lots of them they are lots of people to have fun and get together.
    You have noone to ask permission just yourself and ready to move anywhere and have fun.
    Mez
    27th Jun 2016
    3:24pm
    So funny.....some of the comments! Had to chuckle!
    Added bonus to keep in mind in having sex more often are the health benefits.....physically and psychologically AND it helps in living longer with less health problems!
    Singles may always have it with themselves whenever they want or then there are certain phone numbers to call as one commenter stated. ????????


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