Taking the leap

Jo Lamble has some advice for Bruce who wants to meet his online sweetheart

Taking the leap

Starting a new relationship is difficult enough without others feeling the need to have their say. Relationship expert Jo Lamble has some advice for YOURLifeChoices member Bruce who is keen to take the next step with his new lady.

Q.  Bruce
At 62 I was incredibly lonely until I met a lovely lady online, who sadly lives interstate. I am planning a holiday with her, but my family and friends say I’m crazy as we only have a virtual relationship. Am I mad or should I take the leap?

A. You’re certainly not mad to want to grab the chance of a close relationship. It’s just important that you don’t commit to anything too soon. Hopefully you have spoken at length on the phone, because you can learn a lot more about a person by talking to them than you can online. Next step is meeting face to face. Is there a chance that you could travel interstate and not necessarily stay together, but spend some time getting to know each other? If not, can you plan a holiday that doesn’t cost too much and allows for you to escape if she is not what you’d hoped? It’s lovely that you have friends and family who care so much about you. They probably are fearful of you being taken for a ride or being hurt by this woman. Thank them for their concern, and agree to take things slowly.


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    14th Apr 2013
    What is there to lose? Meet her. You have a right to do as you wish. Don't part with any of your money! You are 62 not 22 or 32. give it a go and tread gently.Your family like mine, can be over protective and that is a sign of caring for us. I travel as much as I can. They are always concerned but I keep in touch constantly telling them practically everything(THEY don't tell me much about what they are up too!!)Loneliness is not pleasant at all .Try it out...

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