Time for reflection

Many women feel constantly over-committed; juggling obligations.

Time for reflection
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Many women feel constantly over-committed; juggling obligations to their employer and colleagues, family members and friends. There is often limited time out to recharge. Setting aside time for personal needs is not easy in a busy life and may feel indulgent or selfish.

In a recent online poll during the inaugural Jean Hailes Women’s Health Week asking ‘How do you take time out for yourself?’ 20 percent of respondents said that this was difficult for them and that they needed to get better at taking time out for themselves.

“Women often expect a lot of themselves without realising that this can sap energy and enthusiasm,” says Jane Fisher, the Jean Hailes Professor of Women’s Health atMonashUniversity. “We forget that for us to be able to keep giving to others, we not only have to look after ourselves, but we need to allow others to give to us too. We are great at looking after everyone else in our lives, but we often put ourselves last.”

Helpful ways to reflect and recharge

Slow down
Days that are too full can mean you find it difficult to relax. Practise relaxation skills such as slow, deep breathing, sitting still, listening to soothing music or reading. 

Practise mindfulness
So often we are caught up in ‘doing’ rather than just ‘being’. We worry about what might happen and forget to appreciate what we have and what is happening around us. Practising to just ‘be’ in the moment can help you relax, and stops you feeling distracted and forgetful.

Practise setting limits
Saying yes to everything immediately may mean you end up overloaded and stressed. Practise buying time before saying yes to something new. Learn to say you need to check your diary before you can agree.

Plan
Plans help you structure daily life and let you set aside time for little breaks like meeting a friend for coffee, as well as bigger breaks like family holidays.

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    Nightshade
    6th Nov 2013
    1:42pm
    "women often expect a lot of themselves"
    NO THEY HAVE BEEN BRAINWASHED INTO BELIEVING THAT THEY CAN HAVE IT ALL.
    AND NOW IT HAS BECOME COMPULSORY EVEN AT THE GOVERNMENT LEVEL.
    ABUSE OF WOMEN ALL OVER AGAIN.
    The theory that we women can have it all is flawed:-
    The Husband
    The 2.5 Kids
    And a JOB :-
    Not without a cleaning lady 2 times a week -
    An ironing lady
    A nanny on call day & night -
    Ask one of these ladies when she last had sex with her husband -
    SEX BEING PART OF THE REQUIREMENT IN A MALE / FEMALE COMMITMENT OF MARRIAGE.
    A FORM OF EXPRESSING LOVE & PASSION FOR & WITH EACH OTHER -
    & NOT SOME DIRTY THING WE DO JUST TO CATCH HIM & TRAP HIM IN A LEGAL BIND.
    I asked Emma ( working woman - full time, 2 kids in primary school, 1 hubby )- she replied "god I don't remember it was so long ago"
    So hubby is abandoned -
    I immediately thought - SO WHO IS HE GETTING IT FROM THEN ?
    Only the fem fatale who thought it up cannot admit that they may have got it horribly wrong.
    What is the point of getting married to a cute guy so that he can screw to office staff or the lift operator on their way up.
    The professor does not know what she is talking about - sorry love but you've got it horribly wrong.
    I have been a nanny for a while, I saw first hand how it goes.
    Nightshade
    6th Nov 2013
    1:49pm
    I would pick up the girls from Morris Hall first
    Then we would go get the boys at Grimwade House
    In Autumn I would park the Merc down the end of the street & we 3 would walk up to get the boys.
    The street was full of brown, yellow & leaves which we threw at each other all the way back to the car, laughing & screaming all the way. I have more - lovely memories - you can't begin to imagine what we got up to & how much fun it was.
    WHERE WAS MUM - OOPS - SHE MISSED OUT.


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