The Catholic Church is likely to draw the ire of many people after Fr Tony Kerin has claimed that young women in Australia are too fussy when looking for a future husband. Fr Kerin, the Episcopal Vicar for Justice and Social Service in the Archdiocese of Melbourne, believes that if they continue to be choosy on the dating scene they’ll miss out all together due to a man drought currently wreaking havoc on our society.
Firstly, as a newly married man, I would like to thank my wife Kylie for not being too fussy and congratulate her on finding an oasis in the middle of such a barren man drought.
Secondly, I will acknowledge that because I was raised a Catholic, I am naturally quite defensive of criticism that is thrown at the Church. I often feel that it’s an easy target at which people can take a shot. But on this occasion I’m not defending them. If they have a PR team, I’m sure they’re rolling their eyes now because all Fr Kerin’s proclamation does is add fuel to the fire of how ‘out of touch’ the Church is with modern society.
But what upsets me most is people forcing their version of happiness onto others –– it doesn’t matter what religion these people are. The long held view that marriage is how you live ‘happily ever after’ is simply not the case for everybody. Some people are happy to live their life as a bachelor or bachelorette. Others are happy to live in a loving de facto relationship. And what if you’re not heterosexual? But let’s not get started on that.
If a woman wants to focus on her career instead of finding Mr Right, then full power to her. If she prefers a de facto relationship, that’s her choice. And if she wants to wait around for the right partner, let her wait. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. Let people make their own decisions and stop telling them how to live their lives.
Do you think young women are too fussy these days? Should we re-evaluate our understanding of ‘happily ever after’? Is it time for people to accept that relationship types have changed over time?
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