Any comments welcome
After ten years of living alone but with friendly neighbours and family attention my daughter (single in her thirties), asked if she could live with me for six months whilst she pursued work in the area. The six months became a year and a request for the long-time boy friend to move in with her/us was made. Friends and family members advised against it but he is a kind gentle man who loves my daughter so I agreed. My home was small and we quickly realised moving to somewhere larger was needed and we moved. Three years went by and gentle hints for them to find their own accommodation were ignored. I became ill and both daughter and boy- friend cared for me with love. Now I am recovered though at seventy eight years of age am a bit shaky on my feet. During all this time my daughter worked but the boy friend was mostly unemployed and she supported the boy-friend with help from me. The boy-friend has been on New Start allowance for a long time and for health reasons has been tagged as unemployable. I look back at my time living alone with regret that I didn't heed the warnings from others and stayed alone with my friends and neighbours. Should I continue living with these two or insist they find other accommodation?
At this stage, especially if you are a little shaky, maybe better to stick to the status quo.
Is the boyfriend physically able to help around the house. I guess if the house is big enough and they pay their way, it might work out for the best to leave things as they are.
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Another alternative is to go to a retirement village where there is care and company, and they might have to make other arrangements.
I wish you all the best and hope things work out for you.