Do you make decisions easily?
I find making decisions hard ... but according to writer and feminist Rita Mae Brown, "a peacefulness follows any decision, even a wrong one."
I must admit, it's got me thinking, and acting. So, lately, I'm experimenting, to not 'um' and 'ah', but to go with my gut to at least not be in turmoil. And move along without the angst in my head. Do you agree with Rita?
I do think b4 I act and also like to think ahead.
No wonder your name is 'PlanB' :-)
People who are indecisive and think that it is better to wait have lost the plot completely. Any decision is better than none - at least it may bring about a result which can be acted upon to correct if it is the desired one.
Hmm...interesting perspective FE.To an extent I agree. I know I get really indecisive at a restaurant when I'm super hungry and ther e are too many good things to eat!
I gather all the informtion I can then reveiw it for awhile. When I feel there is nothing more to add, I have all the facts and figures, I will then decide. By then it is usually obvious what road I must take.
That's pretty organised Nan Norma. I think it's hard to make emotional decisions sometimes, where facts and figures don't really have a play
When A & B are opposed, it's called a false dichotomy. The best decisions often include both.
I spent most of my working life making decisions that could have had fatal consequences for myself and others. Many with little time to think about it.
These days it is good to be able to mull over something of little consequence.
Take it easy.
SD
My (our) big decision is whether to up sticks and join our two children in Australia. Life is comfortable here in UK at present but Europe is becoming increasingly worrying. We are in our late 60s, have been in the same house for 40 years and have accumulated far too many belongings. Are we too old to cope with the upheaval although we must reduce clutter whatever we decide. Empty nest is a sad situation especially when there are grandchildren to be missed too but our children have very busy lives and maybe we wouldn't get to see much of them even if we were there.
If we didn't have a much loved dog we'd probably spend six months here and six months there. I have read that your government now allows stays of a year for those waiting for a parent visa. That would be a way of knowing whether emigrating would be the right decision for us and the dog could cope with trips that far apart....at least quarantine is only ten days there now.
Oh what a dilemma!!
Hi JayUK, that's certainly a big decsion. For my two cents' worth, go with what your heart and gut say. Don't overthink it. Nothing has to be permamnent. If you do decide to come to Aus and it doesn't work out, you can always go back and call it an experience :)
JayUK. That is a very big decision at any age but late 60's! You would be leaving friends behind. Which state would you be coming to. That would make a difference.You suggest you might not see much of your two children and grandchildren even if you live here. So you still might be "empty nesters". Do you make friends easily as it sounds like you may need to?
Are you aware you can not get a pension here. Also, you get free health care in the UK, you will have to pay here. You really need to find out how your chidren feel about the idea of you coming here as some time in the future you may need their support. They need to be frank with you.
JU,
Big decision. As Nan points out there are many things to be considered.
We are idly thinking of moving house in a small country town and that is causing enough angst.
Take it easy.
SD
JayUK, If you come and find you've made a mistake will you be able to return?
Hi Nan...well yes I'm thinking that if the granting of a year's visa while waiting for a full parent visa is accurate then we would rent out the house for that time so that we could return if we felt emigrating definitely wasn't right for all concerned.
Yes, there is the worry of being a burden eventually on the children and we would want to be as independent as possible. Mind you, if we were there it would save them costly visits to UK to deal with problems and sorting out the difficulties of us eventually departing this world ..( I like to look ahead !! )
They are in Sydney and we would look at Southern Highlands region so wouldn't intend being on top of them. We do make friends easily but it doesn't really make up for having your family the other side of the world.
My daughter's in laws are about to emigrate and I've met and communicate with my son's in laws so at least we would have some contacts there.
We would still have our UK pensions but they don't increase annually when you emigrate. Yes, it would be a shame not to have the health service but we do pay for extra private health insurance here too.
Maybe the children's inheritance will have to be spent on flights to visit often!!
Lesh, I agree with you there. Emotional decisions are the hardest ones to made. If only we could be so rational when it cames to marrying there be a lot less divorce.
My big decision is whetheer to have an early retirement or not. Wish I could make up
my mind.
When making a decision about anything, you have to think of the outcome of your decision. Will it hurt you or anyone you love. Will you be sorry later. Will you think later I should have done that differently. Is the decision going to hurt your finances to the point it causes you stress or money problems you can't handle. No good saying I don't care or who cares, its you that will suffer and probably people who love you. So think about it, and make your decision the 'next morning'. Never at night and never while drinking alcohol. Its a mongrel of a life but its worth the effort. things change everyday, tomorrow could bring a different outcome or answer. love to all
Never make decisions when you're making love.
I know what you mean about peacefulness after mulling over something for ages and then finally making a decision. I don't jump into anything but usually when I do make a decision, it proves to be a good one. However sometimes extenuating circumstances could mess it all up, then I have to start all over again!