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It's International Happiness Day. So, we thought we'd share 10 ways to help boost your happiness!

Five things happy people do

Simple things to make you happy

Five steps to a happy retirement

Money habits for happy couples

Five ways to improve your day

Seven simple ways to improve your life

Five ways to be happier

Out of your mind for happiness

How pets improve health and happiness

Five steps to a happier life

 

What's your secret for being happy? Why not share it with our members?

Here's to happy days ahead!

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This is a great  thread, how come I never saw it before?

Five ways to improve your day (from opening topic)

That's a good start.

Yep RnR I agree all those can make one happy

RnR I like your rain guage theory :)

Good one Rnr......

And Frank do believe a 'homeless man with one arm' could experience some level of happiness.....Also believe he may be even more finely attuned to experiencing happiness moments than say someone who has everything Eg. Feeling the warmth of the first rays of sun on a wintry morning after a fearful night of sleeping rough..

All sorts of things make us happy, sad, angry, joyful, fearful...

Recall I loathed my wedding day and couldn't wait for the whole hideous, stress inducing, awkward-family-members-thrown -together sideshow to be over and believe many brides feel the same way - but weddings are often spun as 'the happiest day in  a woman's life'....

That's beautiful RnR, so true.

 

Shetso1, the love you had for your husband on your wedding night, is it different in any way today? Someone mentioned love in a post, but is it not a feeling? Similar to lust or happiness? We know that lust is a fleeting feeling.Should we compare happiness with lust or love?

  Anyway, back to the homeless person with one arm. I dont think long term happiness is possible for this person without his need for security being fulfilled. Unless of course he has found his ideal abode. It's not always about bigger and better in my opinion.

I can only imagine what I would feel about a BIG WEDDING -- I could think of nothing worse -- get married and tell bugga all -- thats the way I did it it is between you and your Husband -- 

So much these days is put on the WEDDING and not the MARRIAGE 

Me too RnR.

There are many things that contribute to making one happy, not just one thing.  It's all these things joined up together that gives one a feeling of contentment.  Loving and being loved, the joy of watching a small child, amazement at things in nature all go to giving one the feeling things are right in the world you are living in.

I see no mention of money? Does the strength of your country's economy play a part it your overall happiness? Does your ability to manage your personal finances improve your prospects for happiness? Or is this a question to be avoided because it actually makes people unhappy? lol

My gut feeling is that we can all achieve long term, lasting happiness if we know what it is. If we can describe it in great detail, if we can measure it, we can set goals to acheive it! Goal setting in itself is a pathway to happiness... but a goal set to acheive happiness itself? wow!!

I think short term happiness is shallow, it's real but it's shallow. It's like a strong coffee. It's a fillip, an instant hit. This type of gratification is becoming more socially acceptable. Less people willing to plan long term these days. We want it and we want it now.  

I think most people would say,"the most important thing for me is to be happy." If that's the case , then why dont we do something about it??

 

@ Frank...." Thea, I'm curious. If happiness is a state of emotion and humans have the same chemistry , then why is happiness different for all people?"

Hi Frank...I'm having my first cup of happiness of the day (coffee)..so my answer will be brief..

I don't like answering a question with another question..however..what is your understanding of "human chemistry?"...I believe you are talking of biology..yes..we all have the same biology but the DNA of each person is different..so bearing that in mind..and the fact that DNA has an effect on our personality (human chemistry)..then it is not surprising we all feel emotions differently...

Maybe someone can add to this..perhaps Ben (the soldier)?

Good morning Thea, we may behave differently, but we all have the same biological needs. We all eat drink etc. So why cant we all have our happiness goal met by the same set of KPI's? I'm answering a question with a question so consider it rhetorical :)


Hi Frank..I agree we all have the same biological needs..but is "happiness" a biological need? There is a school of thought today that Maslow missed one very important point and that is.. all of these needs are not possible without "social connection" and "collaboration." In other words..we need people.. 

As  you are probably aware..our Key Performance Indicators (KPI) depend largely on how we rate on the happiness scale..when we're feeling happy..we do better etc..

Hi Thea, Interesting question. Is happiness a biological need? I think happiness is a combination of biological needs. As an example, can one be truly happy without loving another person? I dont know if Maslow wanted to place too much importance on the need for social intercourse although if my memory is ok he does make mention of a few activities which cannot be done without social connection and collaboration. If KPI's tell us how we rate then they become the goal? Do they not?

The goal of happiness, I think, needs to be painted with a broad brush if it is to include all humans. My understanding of Maslow's theory was to take away the obstacles to sustained high performance in the workplace. He underscored the need for certain basics human needs to be fulfilled before one could reach this level of peak performance. My experience was that if desire was strong enough it would drive peak performance, if those needs were the reward.

If happiness is the reward of only basic needs being attained then where is the motivation to strive beyond ones capabilities. 

Hi Frank...a few thoughts based on your above post...

"Is happiness a biological need? I think happiness is a combination of biological needs"

I share that view and would add this...A variety of biological, psychological, economic, religious and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness..what do you think?

"can one be truly happy without loving another person?" 

Personally I don’t think so..one can be “content” but I believe we are meant to have that connection with another person to be “truly happy.” Speaking of “content” that also would only eventuate if the person has some genuine pursuits they are interested in…

I share your enthusiasm regarding Maslow..however..are you using it only as a business model? The reason I ask is because when Maslow created his hierarchy of needs...he originally intended it to be somewhat more spiritual..but didn't think people would use it..hence only five levels..

If previous writings are correct.. he was a spiritual person and before he died he added a sixth level to those needs..

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When I see subjects like this one I think of all the people living on their own -  widowers/widows and those who have never married and have no grand children or family.  Loneliness is hard to admit to but if you know what it feels like, it must be very hard to overcome.

toot2000, Maybe the feeling of being alone is part of the human condition? Perhaps that's why some people cannot tolerate being alone. Maybe that's is why we concocted religion? So that we all feel like part of a bigger picture?

Some people can enjoy being alone -- I am one of them -- I have many Friends but I quite happily enjoy my own company -- I do not need to be surrounded by people and I consider myself very fortunate to be able to be this way.

Quote Frank: Reagan if happiness was only short term then is it a worthwhile acheivement?

When I say "short term" I also said it comes in stops and starts meaning not continuous. One can be "happy" several times a day depending on the situation.Some people don't want to be happy, they like their state of misery, too much hard work being happy, you have to eat the right foods, exercise, hug someone every now and then etc. Another thing that makes people unhappy but they don't realise it,is being obsessed with the lives of others. Mind your own business as they say and you'll be happy.

 

 

HA HA HA that's right Reagan. People who benchmark their lives based on others in the gossip columns will find it hard to live up to.

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