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Why is everybody else having less sex

BBC - Future - The many reasons that people are having less sex



We live in one of the most sexually liberated times of human history. Access to new technologies over the past 40 years, whether it is the contraceptive pill, or dating apps such as Grindr and Tinder, have opened a new world of possibilities. As the sexual revolution of the 1970s matured, societal norms shifted with it, with increasing acceptance of homosexuality, divorce, pre-marital sex, and alternative relationships such as polyamory and swinging.


Despite this, research suggests that we’re actually having less sex now than we have for decades.


On average, Americans had sex nine fewer times per year in the early 2010s compared to the late 1990s – a 15% drop 


In March, American researchers Jean Twenge, Ryne Sherman and Brooke Wells published an article in the Archives of Sexual Behavior showing that Americans were having sex on average nine fewer times per year in the early 2010s compared to the late 1990s – a 15% drop from 62 times a year to just 53. 


The declines were similar across gender, race, region, educational level and work status, with married people reporting the most significant drops.



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While it could be easy to dismiss this as a one-off, or a symptom of the challenges of researching people’s sex lives, this is another point in a growing trend across the world. In 2013, the National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (Natsal) found that British people between ages 16 and 44 had sex just under five times per month.

This was a drop from the previous survey, released in 2000, where men were recorded to have sex 6.2 times a month, and women 6.3 times.

In 2014 the Australian National Survey of Sexual Activity showed that people in heterosexual relationships were having sex on average 1.4 times per week, down from 1.8 times 10 years earlier. The situation is perhaps most severe in Japan, where recent data has shownthat 46% of women and 25% of men between the ages of 16 and 25 ‘despise’ sexual contact."

more from the BBC If women are having sex more often than men who are they having sex with ?


According to the BBC report women are having more sex than men ?Who are they having sex with ? 

Younger women are more promiscuous then men

have more sex with more partners 

I agree with your premise   But they are having sex with men so the stats should be even . 

For the Stats to be correct women would have to be having.more sex with women than men do with men .

Homosexual woman on rise ??

I wouldnt get too hung up on stats.


It's not that people are having less sex..they are so busy enjoying it..they don't have time to put up voyeuristic posts for people who are clearly not having any..


Well that's one theory .But does not explain the other 99.9999 of the population. ,


Lots more people finding life more rewarding being single 

You might note the heading 

:) Guess you're OK then Brocky.

Oh yes but I worry for Raffy 

Well fair enough. Hope the 'friend in need' scenario doesn't see you too involved.

Yes I meant more live alone and only pick up someone for sex once in a while 

through tinder or grinder or the old fashioned way - at a bar or pay at the whorehouse

For example I don't get my Saturday morning specials unless the girlfriend is staying over

Poor Brocks, did you have a puncture in your blow up doll??

Micha could you explain why you need to enter every thread with childish comments ..

I haven't read the article so I'm probably off track.

I think it's important to understand what sex is or what the sexual act means to people.

I personally reagrd sex as a means of communication. Now with this in mind and considering the  advancements in methods of communication, it is now much more convenient to talk about it rather than actually do it. In other words people are more satisfied with social intercourse. Personally I prefer sexual intercourse.   


I like your means of communication Image result for smiley happy

...sounds like lot better fun than doing a two finger keyboard.

Sex is a bit over-rated if you ask me. Then again, you probably didn’t.

Back in the days when an erection was a minute by minute event, it seemed necessary to have some relief beyond the cold shower, a run in the rain, 3l of cheap wine or the company of a glossy and a bottle of baby oil.

As I matured (sort of) it was cheaper to boast about it even if sex didn’t happen. 

Then marraige killed it all. As the years progressed, sex became a necessity when my wife wanted a baby, a requirement when concluding an argument, a moment of desperation when the house was empty, and then an expectation because I had heard sex was necessary to keep a relationship intact.

well, that didn’t work. Or did it. My then wife decided she’d burn the candle at both ends, so to speak.

anyway, as my dear mum advocated: it takes at least 3 marriages to get it right.

im on my second so I’m anticipating the next. Unfortunately my wife is on her third and she has ukered me.

so we started of like rabbits. 20 years on and we both find it an unnecessary exertion. I’d prefer to sleep and she’d prefer to clean out the cupboards. 

Dont get me wrong. We are delightfully happy with the arrangement. It was something we discussed at length and agreed upon. I have no inclination to wander off the local massage parlour and she is still content cleaning the cupboards (no, it’s not a euphemism).

i used to be slightly concerned with the public perceptions and expectations. Then I realised that most of the public have poor perceptual skills and if they find people not meeting their expectations there’s one definite way of dealing with it.

Lower your expectations.

sex is a biological and psychological process. It’s occurrence and frequency, indeed it’s necessity, changes with individuals, circumstances, requirements, even psychosocial expectations.

there are no rules. Statistics only tell us what is happening. They don’t tell us how we should behave.


There’s a lot to be said re: a celibate lifestyle ..

Ya gotta laugh re: sex and it’s more or less quantity.  Read somewhere years ago that sex/romantic love/lust was nature’s little joke of a combination of hormones and brain chemistry at its best only meant to last about 2 years or long enough for the female of the species to conceive, give birth, and to have a help partner in raising a child in the early months of life...

Dunno...No easy answers from me on this one.


If you enjoy a "celibate lifestyle" ..go for it! Doesn't appear to have made your attitude any happier.

For me sex in a loving relationship is a wonderful gift..and I certainly do agree with Kaye Fallick's view on this...have a read and listen to her podcast!



re "Sex is a bit over-rated if you ask me."

Don't knock it ... it is the only exercise some people get

and exercise is good for the heart and also prevents dementia

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HappyNew Year my friend. Can't sleep, just back from a luau best barbeque ever tasted and some great cocktails. Think I'll have to go for a midnight swim. 

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