How to travel with someone

How to travel with someone and still be friends when you return home.

How to travel with someone

As the old saying goes: If you want to get to know someone, travel with them. Whomever you’re with – partner, best friend, family member or work colleague – travelling together can test the limits of your relationship. However, trying these tips can help you have a smooth trip and return home with an even stronger relationship.

Choose wisely

Try to choose someone with whom you’d be happy to spend every day. So, just because both of you want to see Ireland, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a good idea to go together. For instance, if meeting the person for coffee does your head in, you’re probably going to have a hard time spending any extended period of time with them – which means they probably won’t make an ideal travel buddy

Be open from the start

So you’ve selected your travel buddy. They’re someone with whom you can have a laugh, share your interests in tourist sites and work with you during the trip. Now it’s time to have the conversation. Be honest and straight-forward – discuss how you think you’ll fare together and what you will do if you get sick of each other. A little conversation now will go a long way in managing any road bumps while you’re away.

Schedule time alone

No doubt there will be moments during your trip when you and your buddy will disagree on which sites to see. You might want to take a gondola ride through the Venetian canals while he or she would rather go shopping for lace on Burano island. Allow each other that space to do what you prefer. Think of the time to be alone as insurance against getting sick of each other over time.

Deal with issues when they arise

One big mistake travel buddies make when they get annoyed with each other is to not talk about it to keep the peace. This can mean the problem might fester and get worse. For example, if you feel your buddy keeps dismissing your suggestions about the best way to get to a destination, the best option is to be up front with them. You may discover that it’s all just a big misunderstanding.

Make other friends

Cruises, tour groups, tourist sites, hostels and guest houses are excellent places to make new friends. Ensure you spend time eating dinner, sightseeing and relaxing with other people – and not just with your travel buddy. It will take the pressure off having to constantly entertain each other and for that you’ll both be grateful. On the flip side, don’t abandon your buddy for new friends. Always include them; otherwise when it’s just the two of you again, you could face bigger problems.

Don't depend too much on each other

It’s important not to lean too heavily on any one person with whom you're traveling. If it’s just the two of you for any extended period of time, you’ll need to share the responsibilities of travelling, such as covering costs, booking accommodation and day trips, navigation and choosing activities. The best way to do this is for each person to stick to their strengths and contribute in their own way. If your buddy has a knack for seeking out the best pizza restaurant in Rome and you’re handy with a map, why not use your skills and work together?

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    Gypsyfeet
    4th May 2015
    1:10am
    Be up front & honest before the deposit is paid. If you are not a morning person, particularily because you are a bad sleeper, you don't want to be stuck with someone who just 'Must see the sun come up' & is not willing to bend, even on holiday, tells me that is someone who wants all their own way. Remember, you have saved & scrimped. possibly for years, to have your dream holiday too. Sit in a sociable setting, make a list of likes & dislikes. What activities you both like & could do together. perhaps best keep daytime for going your own way & meet up for evening meals & some entertainment. If the partner is still wanting to dictate where you eat every night, let them know you paid for your holiday too & half the room, & it is just not working for you & not enjoyable. Say what you feel, but say it kindly & go off on your own sweet way. Afterall, if you don't like your own company how can you expect anyone else to. If they don't give a damn about waking you every morning at a rediculously early hour, then don't feel guilty if you disturb them at night. These are the main issues with cruise buddies because you are in such close quarters. Some people will actually tell you what you want to hear, thinking once you are onboard what the hell can you do about it anyway! I have had people tell me this "Say yes to everything & once on board do what the hell you like, it's your holiday too. Not my way of doing things. I would rather going into it hoping I will make a travel buddy for life & hope they would do the same.
    Arisaid
    4th May 2015
    12:16pm
    Give each other space and time alone.
    Bookworm
    4th May 2015
    12:25pm
    If sharing a room, try to find out if the other person snores! One holiday I took, my travelling companion (my brother) snored so loudly that people in other rooms could hear him! Please don't suggest earplugs - I find them so uncomfortable and you are very vulnerable if, say, a fire alarm goes off in the hotel. You just wont hear it. My holiday was ruined because of his snoring and I couldn't get another room. Now, I insist on my own room when travelling with friends or family despite the extra cost. More privacy too.
    Gypsyfeet
    5th May 2015
    1:15am
    Bookworm, amazing how many people who hate snorers actually snore themselves. You can actually go to an audioligist & have made to measure earplugs. Personally I find close fitting padded ear plugs playing relaxation music. Believe me, your snorer will be the 1st to hear a fire alarm go off *s* Be a good friend, tell him you are concerned about his snoring giving him serious health problems & to see a sleep specialist. Two of my friends did this & got a PAP machine. Could not believe the difference in their health, mood, energy levels. Must admit I enjoyed a solo cabin better, but sometime just too expensive.
    Bookworm
    5th May 2015
    6:47am
    Gypsyfeet, I have been assured by my husband that I don't snore! My brother certainly wouldn't hear a fire alarm sounding - he sleeps like the dead. He did get a PAP machine but has stopped using it - said it was too uncomfortable even though his specialist gave him a few different options to try. But I agree with you that these machines cause a remarkable improvement in a person's overall health etc - a few friends have told me it has changed their lives enormously.


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