Travel SOS: can a holiday save your marriage?

Geraldine wants to know if it’s wise to try a make-or-break holiday to save her marriage.

couple on holiday trying to fix their marriage

Geraldine feels as if her marriage is stilted and is wondering if a holiday with her hubby could get things back on track. So, in Travel SOS, Leon discusses the pros and cons of a make-or-break getaway.

Q. Geraldine
My husband and I are having a hard time with our relationship. He’s just retired and I’ve been retired for a few years and I’m wondering if a holiday might help us get things right again. What do you think?

A. Normally I would say a holiday is the answer to most problems. I mean, who doesn’t want to go away and escape the pressure and/or drudgery of daily life? 

Now, I’m no relationship expert, but I would say, in this instance, I’d be wary of thinking a holiday will be a fix-all for your marriage.

Travelling as a couple can be a true test of the strength of your relationship. It can also break apart a union quicker than you can say “two tickets please”.

And although the novelty of travel could be a good thing to kick-start a stagnant relationship, the road you tread can be fraught with peril. A missed connection, the wrong meal coming to your table, driving on unknown roads or dealing with strangers in a strange place can put pressure on people at the best of times, let alone during a rocky relationship.

cropped photo of couple with wedding rings

Having said that, the Travel as Relationship Therapy’ study published in the Journal of Travel Research revealed that relationship satisfaction and commitment to building stronger bonds improved after couples travelled together.

My advice would be to go away for a weekend, maybe to a B&B in the country or a health spa in the hinterland. Ensure you have plenty of things to do, but relax and leave time for conversation and intimacy. Maybe just getting out of the house will help, but it’s probably best to test the waters before diving into a full-blown overseas trip.

Then, if that goes well, book a longer trip somewhere and solidify your renewed bond.

If it doesn’t, it may be best to consult a relationship specialist who will be able to help you in a constructive and caring way.

Geraldine, I wish you all the best and truly hope you have a happy holiday that breathes new life into your love life!

Do you have any tips for Geraldine? Have you been in a similar position? Did a holiday help your relationship?

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    15th Jul 2017
    12:05am
    Nope

    One holiday won't fix a lifetime of misery

    Run for the hills
    Rosret
    15th Jul 2017
    7:31am
    No.
    If you have financial issues you will have more when you get back.
    If its a life time of little bad habits - you won't be able to escape them.
    When I see people go on holidays as a group of couples I often think they must be tired of their personal relationship and need extra company.
    I often see a holiday for new couples forming a relationship as one of the tests of compatibility because that lovely sweet person is going to be an entirely different person after a few days away from their creature comforts.
    casey
    15th Jul 2017
    8:04am
    Go for it Geraldine, cant hurt,and always good to get away. However your husband needs to find new interests/hobbies. Things to take the place of work, instead of sitting around moping. Not easy the sudden change when you retire. All the best, I hope things work out well for you.
    Chris B T
    15th Jul 2017
    9:57am
    There are 2 songs that come to mind: 1 can we talk it over in bed.
    2 if you leave me can I come too
    Then there is the child's story: The nothing. (you are trying, you just need your husband to try)
    Talk to each other about what your wonts are, try to be on the same book & page.
    Get your husband to plan where ever you go. (Giving Him Something To Do)


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