In the first of a three part series on grief, this article looks at the personal nature of grief – both in terms of how we all experience it differently and also how becoming personally involved in your own experience can benefit your recovery.
Grief plays a large part in saying goodbye to a loved one but it shouldn’t simply be considered as just ‘one of those things’. Everyone deals with his or her grief differently and no reaction should be considered wrong but the first step in dealing with grief is realising that this is what you’re experiencing.
For some it may be self-evident but for others some form of counselling or therapy may be required. Again, what method is most suited depends on the individual. Some people are quite comfortable opening up in front of another person or even a group, whereas others are naturally more reticent to convey their innermost thoughts. Don’t be afraid to try a few methods; consider keeping a diary, get more active, consider art therapy or draw on your own spiritual beliefs.
By acknowledging that you may be struggling to cope with the death of a loved one, or the anticipation of a loved one’s death, others will be able to help you get through this difficult time.
It’s also important not to let your grief mar your memories of your family member or friend. Often you can become so caught up in your own sadness that you don’t appreciate the chance to say goodbye. Some people find that writing a letter to your loved one, to be included in the coffin, is very cathartic or maybe, if you feel you can, saying a few words at their memorial service is how you would best like to share your memories. Or maybe drawing on your artistic skills to create something that is a poignant and touching reminder of your relationship will help.
LifeArt’s range of coffins, whether custom or highly tailored to your specifications, provides a family with a way of personalising a funeral farewell to a loved one.
This can begin before the funeral is needed as a way of helping to prepare for grief. After the passing of a loved one, a LifeArt coffin can be of assistance in celebrating and honouring the life of someone dear.
Photos, images, paintings and writings can all be incorporated into your design, when you choose a coffin from LifeArt. You can even decorate the coffin yourself, perhaps get people to write a special message, or grandchildren to draw a special picture – you’re only limited by your own ideas.
