Why are older people deciding not to have pets?

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It’s well known that pets are good for our wellbeing, can reduce our anxiety and stress, and offer love and companionship.

But as we get older we’re less likely to have a furry friend in our lives.

The latest Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia (HILDA) survey found just 11 per cent of Australian pet owners are aged 65 and over. That age group made up nearly 23 percent of those Australians who don’t own a pet.

University of South Australia’s Janette Young, who has researched the positive health effects of pet ownership, says there’s a range of reasons for older people not owning pets.

Dr Young says people’s biggest fear is what happens to their animal if something happens to them.

“People are making this careful and conscious decision which is actually largely focused on the welfare and wellbeing of animals,” she tells ABC RN’s Life Matters.

A person’s ability to care for their pet – both physically and financially – is another factor. Others just simply don’t want the responsibility anymore.

This is what RN listeners told us about why they’re not keeping pets in their lives as they get older.

What if I die first?

Junita Henderson’s “little fella” Jasper has been with her for many years.

He was neglected early in life, and Juanita saved him from death row.

He’s now 16, and while Junita loves him, when he dies, she won’t be getting another dog.

An older looking dog sits on a couch.
Ms Henderson, who lives in the South Australian outback at Andamooka, taught Jasper to walk on grass and a lead after he was neglected early in life.(Supplied: Junita Henderson)

“We see a pet as a many year commitment,” she says.

“I’ll be 75 in 10 years and I just think by then it would just be too hard.”

She also thinks about the prospect of leaving a pet behind when she passes, and the potential for it to be neglected by its new owners.

But she’s thought about other ways to get her animal fix in the future.

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“If people are travelling or the dog’s being left alone a lot then we’d be quite happy to babysit the dog.”

Enjoying another person’s animal is something on Gai Smith’s radar.

“I’ll just borrow other people’s cats,” the 81-year-old says.

When her cat Cally died in 2018 she posted a Buckingham Palace-style notice on the front gate to inform the neighbourhood.

“Dogs have owners. Cats have staff. Cally is the only cat I acquired, all the other cats acquired me,” she says.

But after a bad 2019, which included a hip replacement, Gai’s decided she won’t have any more pets.

“I think it would be cruel to get a cat, it would be silly. It’s not fair to the cat that you’re not going to outlive [it].”

Financially it’s tough

Christine Pankhurst feels guilty she didn’t have the extra money for medical care when her dog Elli May became ill with a tumour.

A fluffy medium-sized dog with a star on its collar sitting for a photo.
Christine Pankhurst says Elli May brought joy to many people.(Supplied: Christine Pankhurst)

The pair spent 12 happy years “as a team” until Elli May’s death in September 2020.

“She was a treasure,” Ms Pankhurst says.

“I couldn’t afford to do what needed to be done for her and so she was slowing declining and that was heartbreaking.

“When we get sick we’ve got Medicare and when I got her my financial situation was not like it is now.”

The animal-loving retiree says she lives on a small amount of money.

“We managed well, but you only manage and when something happens like that there’s no money for emergencies, there’s no money for getting operations done or anything like that.”

Ms Pankhurst now gets her animal cuddles when visiting family and friends who have pets.

Free from all responsibility

Many listeners pointed out the upside of not owning a pet: a life free from the responsibility of looking after others.

“Having looked after others, including pets, my whole life, I now prefer having nothing and no-one to be responsible for,” says Christine Price, 74.

She says she gets to “experience” her daughters’ dogs.

“My observation is that they’re a lot of trouble, and a lot of responsibility and an expense,” she says.

And she isn’t alone.

“I’ve always had pets. The idea of looking after pets exhausts me – as I’ve always worked in service industry & can’t think of having to look after another being, be it pets or person. – Norma

“I’m 67 and my wife Catherine just died of an aggressive cancer. Before she died she encouraged me to get a kelpie but just at the moment I don’t need the neediness of a little dog. I know they are company, but somehow at present in grief, I need my independence in thought and action. Is this a negative approach?” – anonymous listener via text line

If you do want to keep pets …

One listener, Rosemary, suggests getting a pet that’s a bit less demanding than a dog or cat.

Life getting you down? There are always dogs

A Golden Labrador with a red collar.

More people are realising the benefits of using dogs in therapeutic settings, writes Deirdre Fidge. After all, dogs never judge – only love.

“As I get older, I think I might ‘downsize’ from a dog to a budgie. Still lovely to have a pet and certainly easier to rehome if needed,” she wrote on the Life Matters Facebook page.

Others suggested adopting older pets.

Dr Young says for people who want a pet but face some challenges owning one, there are often local government programs that can help – like one that matches dog walkers with owners needing help or volunteers who pick up pet food.

But she says more needs to be done to facilitate those relationships.

“We’re talking about things like animal fostering, about people sharing animals, talking about perhaps having almost like a dating service where people could actually be matched with … really busy people that don’t feel they have the time to actually have their own pet.”

For people living in aged care facilities there are different hurdles.

“I’ve got a dream about older people in communal aged care being able to foster animals because many of those people can’t have an animal living with them anymore,” Dr Young says.

“They have the skills in looking after animals, they understand them and they want that connection.”

Dr Young says as we age our world can become smaller, and pets can connect us with others or just give companionship.

“Animals don’t judge us, they are just these gentle companions that engage with us,” she says.

“They are not part of our human world, and that makes them special. Humans are fantastic but animals give us something different.”

At the end of the day, the most important thing is to do what’s right for you – whether that involves a pet or not.

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Total Comments: 8
  1. 1

    I would love to have a cat! Had them all my adult life. However, I can’t. All the reasons given. Where I live (public housing) is not suitable. No laundry of my own, to have the kitty litter box. My front door doesn’t open to the outdoors; it opens to the common hallway. The cost of keeping a pet is prohibitive as I am on the pension. I have no car for vet visits. And so it goes on. My family, who live in same city, do have pets, so I can have my “cat fix” when I visit them.

  2. 1

    I have a lovely little dog. She is 7, I am 77. Our vet allows me to pay off any big bills over time which helps financially. I don’t think I will replace her when she goes, though. I am concerned about what might happen with any pet after I leave this world.

  3. 1

    My little *boy” is 12 years old and I’m 72. He’s a 16 kg spoodle and is with me 24/7, he even lets me sleep on his queen size bed 😁
    I walk him around the village every morning which is good exercise for both of us. We get to meet and chat with lots of people which wouldn’t be the case without him. He also has his favourite shops where he gets made a fuss of and so do I. He even loves going to the vet in the village because he gets to meet other dogs there!
    Will I get another dog when he passes? I’m not sure as he is irreplaceable.

  4. 0

    I am 71 and have two cats aged 6 & 10 and one dog aged 3. They are great company for me and I would be lost without them. My daughter and her family live with me so I am not worried if something happens to me as they all love animals. If something happens to one of the pets I may get another one.

  5. 0

    Our pet of 14 years died and we didn’t replace her. It was probably a selfish decision as we had just retired and wanted to travel. We believe that a pet is a full time commitment and boarding kennels, whilst we’re sure are very nice, are not conducive to personal care. Luckily, neighbour, both next door and across the road, have dogs and cats which are friendly and we have a Clayton’s pet whenever we want.

  6. 0

    I was hoping someone would say that they didn’t have a pet because they were worried about the environmental impact. In this issue you have an article about the impact of food delivery, what about one on the impact of pet ownership?

  7. 0

    I have 3 cats now, having just taken in another dumped kitty. They are 6, 7 and now 2. I would be lost without them and love them very much. As I have no kids, I’m leaving what little I have to a cat result who will provide care for their lifetimes.



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