Managing chronic fatigue syndrome

older woman experiencing chronic fatigue syndrome

When your health is suddenly taken away from you, keeping hopeful can be difficult. Especially if doctors aren’t entirely sure how to help.

This is a familiar scenario for many people affected by myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME) or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). There are an estimated 92,000 to 598,000 people in Australia living with these conditions.

Although awareness has improved, a lot of mystery and misunderstanding still surrounds the condition. The main symptom is debilitating fatigue (along with a host of other things, including pain, brain fog, dizziness, nausea and sleep problems), which can be immensely severe.

Linda Jones, a mum-of-two and company director from the UK, went from being a high-flying fitness fanatic with a buzzing social life, to losing almost everything after being diagnosed in 2002 aged 34.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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“I lost six years of my life, I remember bits of it, but not most of it. I lost my home, everything,” says Ms Jones. At the height of the illness, some days she could barely move or speak. Her career, marriage and independence all ground to a halt.

In a “weird way”, getting a diagnosis was a relief. “I thought it was good that at least we know what we’re dealing with,” Ms Jones recalls. Lots of people with CFS still face a frustrating battle on this front. “But then the next stumbling block was, well, we don’t actually know what to do with you.”

Read: ‘How I have stopped chronic pain from defining my life’

Although her GP was “lovely”, CFS is often a vague condition. There’s no single test to diagnose it – instead, this often involves a range of assessments, monitoring symptom patterns and ruling out other possible causes – and no set treatment, although medications may help with some symptoms.

Ms Jones remembers these early days as a “very difficult time”. Fast-forward to today though, now 51, she practically glows with health, is working full-time in a new career she loves. In many ways, is healthier and happier than ever.

This hasn’t happened overnight though. “It really took another 10 years,” says Ms Jones. But during that time, some very important shifts took place. Bit by bit, she began seeking out the things that would ultimately help her get her energy back, alongside looking at ‘triggers’ in her life that possibly needed to change – such as stress and burnout.

“I went to see a naturopath and a hypnotherapist. It was a big weight off my shoulders to talk to some people who know what’s going on. I started to see small changes and get a bit of hope,” says Ms Jones, who then became “sort of my own life coach, really”.

She found breaking down her symptoms and addressing them individually made things feel less overwhelming and more manageable. Gradually, Ms Jones overhauled her approach to sleep and nutrition, made relaxation and managing stress a top priority, and gentle movement (walking, yoga, qigong) a central part of her life.

“I’ve slowly integrated these different things. You kind of rebuild yourself and rebuild a completely new life. And I’m still rebuilding,” explains Ms Jones.

Kim Willis, 38, from London, also found taking a holistic approach to recovery life-changing.

“My life became a recovery journey. Sometimes I took one step forwards and two steps back, but with lessons and new experiences all the same.

“I began to realise that recovery wasn’t just about rest. It was about actively tuning into what actually gave me energy, and also understanding what depleted me. It meant consistently making decisions that moved me closer to things that felt lighter and away from those that felt heavier. That meant some pretty big life changes,” explains Ms Willis, whose CFS diagnosis in 2007 resulted in missing a year of work.

Read: Costs force chronic pain sufferers to skip essentials

These “big changes” included a break-up, moving house, and leaving her high-flying job in the Civil Service. Now, Ms Willis’ life also looks very different to life pre-CFS. She’s carved out a career she’s both passionate about and which allows for some all-important flexibility and freedom, as a travel journalist and running a communications company focused on social impact. She “hikes mountains, runs events and travels the world.” Ensuring she fills her life with things that fuel and soothe her body and soul.

Like Ms Jones though, she says “this stuff didn’t happen overnight”. And both women remember what it was like in the early days, when things felt bleak and hopeless. This is a very normal and understandable response to facing any major health shift – and nobody should ever beat themselves up for having a bad day or week, or struggling with the emotional impact of illness.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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Although recovery stories like Ms Willis’ and Ms Jones’ certainly exist, there wasn’t a magic switch. Moving forwards took time and a lot of self-love – and a vital step in the process for both was acceptance.

“Acceptance was a really big thing: ‘Okay, this is happening to me and I’ve got to address it’, and then, ‘Well nobody else can help me, only I can help myself’,” says Ms Jones. Reaching this point took her about two years, she adds, but it enabled her to start listening to her body.

Now, when early warning signs creep in, she slows down and does what she needs to do to restore and recharge. “I check in with myself regularly. How am I feeling, what am I doing? I make sure I nurture myself every single day. I’ve become very clear on my boundaries and that’s really important,” says Ms Jones.

Ms Willis says “in a lot of ways, ME/CFS is a life course in acceptance. And it was incredibly hard at times. CFS felt totally unpredictable: one moment I was at 20 per cent energy, the next I would be getting a blinding headache. You’d just accept one thing, and another would come out of nowhere,” she adds, admitting that “a lot of the time, I just wanted it all to go away. Yet acceptance was an amazing practice. I really got into reading [American Tibetan Buddhist] Pema Chodron and joined a meditation community. I used to practice regularly sitting still, asking myself how I felt, and then just saying ‘yes’ to whatever came up in the moment. It meant really working with my mind, so I wouldn’t get so stuck in a cycle of ‘why me’, or ‘it’s not fair’. Those thoughts were understandable, but they were so unhelpful.”

Believing recovery was possible was key – but that doesn’t mean CFS completely disappears. For many chronic illnesses, it’s about a lifelong journey of listening to your body and honouring what it needs – managing, rather than curing – and sometimes this does mean making big changes.

Read: Chronic pain causes brain changes that increase depression and anxiety

But Ms Willis and Ms Jones both say, ultimately, their lives have improved as a result. “Maybe it sounds like a cliché, but with hindsight, CFS is something I’m grateful for,” says Ms Willis. “It was my body’s best way of telling me that what I was doing and how I was living wasn’t right for the person I am. It took me ages to accept that my body doesn’t quite operate like a lot of people’s, but it was also a gift. They say you don’t change your life unless you really have to. I really had to. And now I have a life that’s much more aligned with who I am.”

For Ms Jones, living with a much greater sense of balance and self-care has been transformative. “We’re always learning and the journey continues,” says Ms Jones, “but I’m living a really happy, healthy, fulfilled life. I’ve found my purpose.”

Do you know someone living with chronic fatigue? Let us know in the comments section below.

– With PA

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Written by Abi Jackson

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  1. CFS, or as it is correctly known; Myalgic Encephalomyelitis, (which is a huge phrase for “Painful Inflammation of the Brain and Central Nervous System,”) not only affects women, although the fairer people (politically correct) seem to be more affected; us fellas have this condition too.

    It’s not a fun thing, I can assure you, and it requires a whole heap of tenacity and perseverance to manage the condition. The best relief I have found from this chronic pain condition is in Tramadol Hydrochloride. It’s a fully synthesised (made in the Lab) opioid analgesic. All that it actively does is block the pain at the opiate receptors in the nervous system, nothing else (well, for me, at least).

    Many Drs think it’s an opiate, but that’s not correct. It is not derived from Opium like many other opiates and opioids; it’s fully synthesised (made in a laboratory), so; it lacks the nasty qualities of those other products that are.

    You can’t get “high” on it because it has a slow uptake, (it takes a good while to start to work), and it has a slow release rate (it takes a long while to wear off, so, no nasty withdrawal effects). If you take more than your body can tolerate, it has its own built-in stomach pump, (you’ll vomit it up and out).

    I have experienced no nasty side effects from taking this medication over a 16-year period and would recommend it to those with any form of chronic pain condition, especially CFS/ME.

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