Nine not-so-secret things that women want from men

Do you want to know what women want from men?

Woman is frustrated by her partner

Men are often quoted as saying that they have no idea what women want. We reckon we have some ideas, so today, we’re sharing those with you.

Caring is cool
It’s a common myth that women want ‘the hard man’. No, they want them to be caring and unafraid to show their sensitive side. Sure, you’ll need to be tough when the situation arises, but nurturing is a powerful way to a woman’s heart.

Chivalry isn’t dead
Open the door for her, let her through first, pull out her chair and push it in when she sits – not all chivalry is dead. It may sound cliché, but these gentlemanly acts will have her swooning. Besides, it’s nice to have social graces. Romance is also high on the ‘what she wants’ list. Bring home a bunch of flowers or light some candles at dinner and watch her face – you’ll see.

Dress to Impress
So, you like her to look good all the time but you’re still wandering around in your hiking shoes. If you expect her to dress nicely, then you too should dress to impress. Learn what she likes to see you wear and flaunt it. Here’s a tip: supposedly, studies have revealed that women like a man in red. So why not pick out a red tie, belt or even socks and see if it’s true?

Be true to yourself
If you’re not great at confrontation or have trouble asking for directions, don’t hide it, learn from it. Women love to see personal growth – it shows that you can be a better man.

You can’t solve her problems
It’s an age old saga: ‘woman have problem, man fix problem’. No. Just let them vent. By allowing them to let off steam you’ll reduce her stress levels and, more often than not, just talking aloud about an issue will raise a solution.

Nodding is a no-no
And while she’s talking to you, don’t just sit there and nod – actually listen. Respond when the conversation allows and show her that you’re taking in what she is saying. Remember: you don’t have to have a solution, just tell her that you think it sucks that she’s having a rough time, or agree with her about the points on which you agree. It’s also great to create a stronger connection by looking her in the eye while she’s talking to you (this also works during sex).

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery
Order a meal that pairs with hers. Choose a tie that matches her dress or shoes. Find the same television shows that you both like. If you care to notice, your partner will often mirror your moods. Evidently, it’s an unconscious way to make you feel more at ease or that she’s ‘charmed’ by you. So, why not return the favour when possible?

You can never say it enough
Tell her she looks nice, that you like her dress or shoes, that her hair looks different (and great), just tell her you think she’s ‘got it’. Tell her you love her. Be sincere. She doesn’t want to fish for compliments – you have to give them to her. Trust me, you’ll both benefit.

Talk about your relationship
Don’t run away from relationship talk. If there’s something wrong, discuss it and fix it. A problem shared is a problem halved, but sometimes a woman likes to get the bearings of a relationship, to know how it’s going, to find out where your head is at. Talking about it will bring you closer instead of driving you apart.

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Do you have any relationship insider tips you’d like to share? Hey, ladies: why not let ‘em know what you really want?

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    Janran
    3rd May 2017
    10:52am
    In a committed, long-term relationship, say "I love you" frequently. Both people need to say it first, otherwise it feels like fishing.

    Tell her she's beautiful - it's a turn on.

    Don't grab her breasts roughly. Breasts are gentle things. DO NOT PINCH NIPPLES! A male's nipples do not respond the same as a female's nipples. If a bloke is smart, he'll learn that well-fondled nipples send a direct message to orgasm land.

    As Leon says; just listen to each other.
    jonboy
    3rd May 2017
    10:57am
    sorry Janran, but males can have very sensitive nipples too!
    and is one of the quickest ways to my Orgasm land as well.
    And many a Lady likes rough nipple play and if a girl takes the time to explore a mans needs then the world would be a nicer place. and not so one sided!!
    Rosret
    3rd May 2017
    11:39am
    Oh yes, Janran - if there was a way to tell a man they have just hit the "off" switch without them getting so offended.
    I often wish they would enjoy a few soppy romance movies to get the "how to" - but alas that's not the way it works.
    Ah ce la vie I guess.
    Janran
    3rd May 2017
    11:48am
    Thanks for the lesson, jonboy. My male partner of over 30 years has incorrectly informed me on this one - that's what I get for being faithful all these years!
    Janran
    3rd May 2017
    12:13pm
    Rosret, you put that so well about the "off" switch. It made me laugh. But why are some men so reluctant to listen to advice that would clearly benefit them as well?
    jonboy
    3rd May 2017
    10:54am
    Well I did get more laughs out of this story than the Friday funnies!!
    Well except for the Dress in Red part and we had a wonderful romantic dinner, but sadly the dress didnt survive being ripped off me when we just made the bed in her haste.
    and lets not forget that MEN seem to have all the real issues and maybe it would be nice if someone listened to their problems for a change as a suicide rate of 8 to 1 proves :(
    Rosret
    3rd May 2017
    11:47am
    Boys are just more successful at the later jonboy - I think you will find just as many attempt suicide they just have a different MO.

    I would love to listen to a male's concerns but men clam up or get angry about something totally off topic - stiff upper lip and all that.

    Remember a trouble shared is a trouble halved. Women not only listen they put another perspective on the matter and usually try their best to solve your problem. Having said that - I think men do the same. Its more about "the who" not the gender.
    Knight Templar
    3rd May 2017
    1:39pm
    Rosret you say that "women not only listen ... ". The feminist and Sydney University Students Union response to the men's rights documentary 'The Red Pill' has not been to listen or attempt to understand men's issues, rather to threaten and ban the showing of the film despite it being sold-out in Sydney and other capitals.

    An attack on free speech by people who have not seen the film but wrongly regard it as abusive or offensive to women. The film deals with men's issues including perceived mistreatment of men by the court and criminal justice system, men's suicide rates, workplace deaths, etc.

    These feminists and student unions actively try to silence or censor any airing of men's issues. They're loud, very vocal, organised and driven by their feminist agenda.

    There is nothing in the film that's anti-women or promoting violence against women. These groups want the film banned despite not having viewed it. They and society in general, do not accept that men have issues. Of course, if they do it's their own fault ...as you imply about men clamming up - stiff upper lip and all that. Sadly, men are not expected to air their problems and generally don't. Men have been conditioned to be stoic.

    You may well be familiar with the saying that "big boys don't cry" but it's okay for girls to cry.

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    jonboy
    3rd May 2017
    2:45pm
    Wouldn't it be nice if these clown Feminiusts, Germain included stopped moaning about pedestrian crossing signs and start to think about all the realities of both sexes.
    I believe men die more from Prostrate cancer than girls from Breast cancer. so where is the compassion. OR help!!
    And a few females succeed in suicide, but generally it is more attention seeking for POR ME. and sadly all suicide is wrong and while lifeline and others try to help, nothing is changind as no one is addressing the REAL issues.
    and why is a man supposed to spoil his partner just to keep her happy, happiness is a SOul mate for life thing and is just nice to spoil each other.
    jonboy
    3rd May 2017
    2:46pm
    Wouldn't it be nice if these clown Feminiusts, Germain included stopped moaning about pedestrian crossing signs and start to think about all the realities of both sexes.
    I believe men die more from Prostrate cancer than girls from Breast cancer. so where is the compassion. OR help!!
    And a few females succeed in suicide, but generally it is more attention seeking for POR ME. and sadly all suicide is wrong and while lifeline and others try to help, nothing is changind as no one is addressing the REAL issues.
    and why is a man supposed to spoil his partner just to keep her happy, happiness is a SOul mate for life thing and is just nice to spoil each other.
    Knight Templar
    3rd May 2017
    3:16pm
    You're right Jonboy. In fact more men die from prostate cancer than women do from breast cancer. Also more men die from strokes and cardiac arrest than women. However, there is little or no sympathy for men's health. It's usually argued that it's a man's fault for not speaking up. When they do, they're usually seen as wimps!

    Eighty percent of the health dollar is directed at women's health. Indeed we are inundated with causes for women - pink this and pink that!! By the way men suicide at a ratio of 5:2 compared with women. Women also live longer than men and are generally a more substantial burden on the welfare system even though they contribute less in taxation.
    Janran
    3rd May 2017
    5:45pm
    Are you really suggesting that a suicide devastates families and communities more or less, depending on their gender?

    Have some respect for the dead. And have some genuine sympathy for anyone who suffers from mental illness. A suicide attempt IS a call for help. You are being very cruel to call females "Poor Me's" simply because they didn't quite succeed. So are you saying that only weak men are the ones who fail suicide? If so, you are actually reinforcing the unfair pressure on men to be tough, show no emotions and bottle it up - the very things that often lead to boys and men to feel so bad about themselves they want to end it all.

    Why do you accept that "... men are not expected to air their problems and generally don't. Men have been conditioned to be stoic." or "... "big boys don't cry" but it's okay for girls to cry."? These unhelpful stereotypes are literally killing more young people than are killed on the roads. People are just people. Surely, we're all here to love and be loved? It's a two-way street.

    Why must you be so one-eyed and defensive? Anyone would think you hate and resent women and girls. By the way, a woman has to be pretty damn stoic to endure childbirth, and you wouldn't be alive if it weren't for your mother. Maybe this is why you resent women so much: women can do something very, very important that men can't. That's a reality.

    And jonboy, what are you thinking with "and why is a man supposed to spoil his partner just to keep her happy, happiness is a SOul mate for life thing and is just nice to spoil each other." Do you really think if a man pleases his partner he is spoiling her? Loving isn't spoiling - just the opposite. It's supposed to be win win. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
    niemakawa
    3rd May 2017
    5:48pm
    @JanRan. Be nice to the men without them women would not have anything to whinge about, that would be a disaster for the "weaker" sex.
    Knight Templar
    3rd May 2017
    5:58pm
    Janran

    Don't let the facts get in the way of your feminist bias.
    Janran
    3rd May 2017
    6:02pm
    niemakawa, you'll notice I'm not complaining about my gem of a husband? He never brings me flowers because he knows I prefer to choose my own. He washes up every night, even when he cooks (half the time). Now that's GOLD!

    YOU were the one appearing to whinge, see below, about this article focusing on women. Practice what you preach.
    niemakawa
    3rd May 2017
    6:11pm
    @Janran. What I said that women are not that special and was just pointing out that fact.
    Janran
    3rd May 2017
    6:29pm
    Wrong again! Everyone is special.
    niemakawa
    3rd May 2017
    6:44pm
    @Janran Wrong again! I said THAT special.
    Rosret
    3rd May 2017
    8:44pm
    Ouch - sorry I have absolutely no idea about "the Red Pill". However, apart from the age old friendly vying for gender supremacy I get the impression a few of you are not OK out there.
    If you don't have a special someone and you are hurting that badly there is Beyond Blue, the Men's Club and Lifeline along with the sporting venues, Rotary, Lyons or the RSL . You are also entitled to several medically covered visits to a psychologist.
    If your spouse is not able to hear your plea for help then reach out beyond your four walls.
    Neither husbands or wives are necessarily psychologists and sometimes both genders need a little help.
    As for more men getting Prostate cancer than women get Breast cancer, 100% of men and women will die - no matter what the illness. We all get sick, we all die.
    niemakawa
    3rd May 2017
    8:50pm
    @Rosret Men don't need to do any of that, they are strong and mighty and have an inbuilt mechanism to make things right.. Another attempt to feminise men. There are already far too many snowflakes men pretending to be women etc.
    Janran
    3rd May 2017
    8:59pm
    Wank on, niemakawa, with your inbuilt mechanism. You are a proven dickhead. A strong and mighty dickhead indeed!

    There are some men out there who are genuinely hurting. You're a heartless type and you are insulting everyone with your wanky words.
    Why don't you just piss off if you think you have nothing to learn?

    I'm glad most men are so much better than you. You're a disgrace to your gender.
    niemakawa
    3rd May 2017
    9:26pm
    @Janran. Well my dear with that type of language you are a disgrace to your gender. Not becoming or befitting of a lady. Tone it down love.
    Janran
    3rd May 2017
    9:42pm
    I never claimed to be a lady. So piss off again!
    Hardworker
    3rd May 2017
    11:33am
    Being sincere, respectful, having integrity and helping out when there's work to be done are the biggest ones for me.
    Rosret
    3rd May 2017
    11:36am
    Don't assume what you like is what she likes - or visa versa.
    You can still love and respect each other without being the other person's twin.
    Pamiea
    3rd May 2017
    2:11pm
    If you guys are smart make your lady happy and she in turn will make you happy. It doesn't seem to work in reverse.
    niemakawa
    3rd May 2017
    2:32pm
    Men want these same things from women. Women are not that special that this article focuses on their needs.
    Watto
    3rd May 2017
    6:50pm
    Treat your wife with respect. As for some of the younger generation feminazis who call you sexist if you hold the door open for them. Anybody ever experienced that ?||||||
    niemakawa
    3rd May 2017
    6:56pm
    Yes who has not? That type of woman is of no use to me, I just ignore them.
    Janran
    3rd May 2017
    9:14pm
    Yes, Watto, men have opened the door for me and I have always thanked them for their consideration. I have noticed that many men are equally jazzed when I have opened a door for them. I call it good manners.

    I'm very happy to be of no use to a wanker like niemakawa, who it seems, is a self-centred pig who uses or ignores people. "No use"? Really? Piss off!

    So, an article about women's needs, asking for women to add further comment, has been dominated by men's comments and anti-opinions. Come on fellas, you've had a good run for way too long already.
    niemakawa
    3rd May 2017
    9:30pm
    @Janran don't let your emotions run away with you. Be calm and collected and take a few deep breaths to quell your anger.
    jonboy
    5th May 2017
    2:27pm
    I have had females laugh at me when I opened the door or done something nice.

    and the other thing that really gets up my goat, especially as a Grandfather, is parents giving me the evil stare if I goo goo their baby!!! :(
    Tib
    5th May 2017
    12:57pm
    What women want .... Who cares.
    musicveg
    14th May 2017
    1:47pm
    No I don't like a bunch of flowers, but plant me a garden bed now that is something.
    No I don't like a man dressed in red, anything except pink,red or purple.
    No point telling me I look nice if you don't mean it.
    Just be honest, true to yourself, kind ,thoughtful, understanding and helpful.
    Try doing some of the chores without being nagged.


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