Little acts of kindness: how to be kind to people online

We share author and blogger Bernadette Russell’s tips on how to be kind to people online.

How to be kind to people online

Bernadette Russell

Little acts of kindness can go a long way, in in the physical and digital world. Today, we share author and blogger Bernadette Russell’s tips for how to be kind to people online.

1. Practise good ‘netiquette’
Don’t type in capital letters, as it’s a bit LIKE BEING SHOUTED AT (see?). Be as nice as you would when interacting with someone face to face. Before you type, ask yourself: ‘Is it true? Is it helpful? Is it necessary? Is it kind?’ (P.S. The answers should all be yes).

2. Send short, polite emails
Many of us are overwhelmed by email spam, offers, invites and requests to send perfect strangers our bank details for a variety of dubious reasons. Keep it brief if you can. Don’t get cross if you don’t get immediate replies – there could be a very good reason for it.

3. Post good reviews
If you’ve bought something, visited a restaurant or been on holiday and loved it: share that experience and make it personal. If you haven’t had a positive experience, where possible make direct contact with the organisation and let them know. They may not be aware of their shortcomings and it’s probably useful for them to receive constructive criticism. Be gentle. Same goes for books, plays, exhibitions, films, etc. – leave the artists feedback if you’ve enjoyed their work.

4. Share good news
Share positive news stories every time you see or hear about them. Look for articles that highlight solutions rather than simply present problems. You might be sharing just the thing someone needed to cheer them up.

5. Think the best of people
Resist responding online with anger or criticism – sometimes the nicest people can come across as unreasonable. If you need to, move the discussion into the real world. Everybody has bad days.

6. Post funny stuff
Post funny videos. Be silly. Share jokes. Making someone laugh on- or offline is one of the best ways to be kind.

7. Practise positivity
Share other people’s good news and help them celebrate. If you like a post, ‘like’ it! If you can think of something that will help – say it! Say congratulations, well done, Happy New Year, etc.

8. Fundraising
Support people who are fundraising by helping them spread the word. Start a campaign online yourself. A wonderful example recently ensured that a lady living in sheltered housing received some birthday cards – lots of people shared the post and she received hundreds from well-wishers. Use the internet as a global village noticeboard for good causes.

9. Share useful and positive information
Share your top tips: recipes, new places you’ve discovered, great bars, books, films, TV series, new shops and markets. Use social media to provide a platform for people to share news, ask for help and announce parties – a Facebook group, Twitter account, blog or website.

10. Follow online groups and communities who promote kindness
There are plenty more popping up every day. Have fun researching them. There are lots of people who feel disconnected because they don’t have access to, or feel confident in, using the internet. A great act of kindness is helping someone use this incredible resource by sharing your skill and knowledge. Lots of local libraries are keen to have volunteers who can help people skill up.

Prompted by the seeming hopelessness of the world around her, Bernadette Russell undertook a pledge to be kind to a stranger every day for a year. The experience left her wanting to inspire others. The Little Book of Kindness is packed with fun ideas, practical tips and interactive exercises that encourage you to 'be kind' in every area of life - online, to strangers, to the environment, in your community, to yourself - and change the world, one act of kindness at a time.

The Little Book of Kindness by Bernadette Russell is published by Hachette Australia, RRP $16.99

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    Old Geezer
    4th Jan 2018
    11:04am
    Yep do all that plus much more to help people. However some people just can't be helped no matter what you do for them.
    Anonymous
    5th Jan 2018
    9:55am
    Are you really THAT deluded, OG! I've seen a lot of cruel, nasty and hurtful comments on here from you, and loads and loads of nasty accusations. Surely you aren't so deluded that you actually believe the nonsense you wrote here?
    Anonymous
    5th Jan 2018
    10:10am
    Goodness, even your last sentence here is judgmental and rude, and potentially hurtful to people in difficulties. How the hell would you know who can and can't be helped and why? What I know for a fact is that you are extremely unhelpful, denigrating, and insulting to many on this forum. And when someone is denigrating and insulting, it's a fair bet people will avoid seeking ''help'' from them, because it's far more likely they will hurt than assist.
    Old Geezer
    5th Jan 2018
    4:38pm
    I see I have been very helpful to you Rainey.
    Anonymous
    5th Jan 2018
    5:22pm
    Yes, you've helped me understand why this country is in such a horrid mess, and why it will never improve. Full of nasty old egomaniacs like you who think their piles of gold somehow make them better than everyone else and give them license to lie, denigrate and insult constantly.
    LiveItUp
    7th Jan 2018
    11:01pm
    Awesome I'm glad OG helped you buy why be so nasty about it?
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    7:34am
    OG, you are right. In my experience, if somebody needs help, then firstly somebody needs to be willing to help, and the intended recipient needs to be willing to be helped and to cooperate with the helper.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    7:36am
    Rainey, get your GP to give you a referral to a psychiatrist. Your attack on OG bespeaks of severe mental illness.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    3:09pm
    My mental health has been thoroughly assessed, Knows-a-lot, due to me having to care for some persons who were considered at risk and needed constant monitoring by someone capable of ensuring their protection. The verdict was that I was strong, capable, very balanced, rational, but deeply empathetic and caring.

    I have suffered depression in the past - long ago. I found the ''gratitude'' treatment program excellent. You should try it. It teaches you to treat people with respect and appreciation and overlook the negatives in the world, except where you feel constructive comment or action might lead to genuine improvement.

    You (and OG) should try treating me with respect. You would discover I am a very nice person. I just tolerate fools badly, and nasty fools much worse. And having endured an extraordinarily challenging struggle in life, I have no tolerance for the egotistical and arrogant who continually lobby for changes that would make life harder for the battling workers who contribute most to society.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    3:12pm
    I should add that I have even less tolerance for people who make nasty generalisations of a sexist nature, or about people of lower socio-economic status, and for people who make nasty assumptions about folk they know nothing about.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    5:27pm
    Who could be bothered reading the mindless blather from the mentally dysfunctional Rainey? Not me. She's terribly obsessive and needs a psychiatric 9re)assessment.

    "You (and OG) should try treating me with respect."

    NO!!! You have earned the opposite: CONTEMPT.

    4th Jan 2018
    11:46am
    Well, hypocrisy your name is YLC. The posts allowed in this forum are often full of half truths or outright lies which are offensive. Then there are others who are very short on facts and very long on personal abuse but that too is allowed. I respect free speech but surely the same free speech should be respectful.
    Anonymous
    4th Jan 2018
    4:22pm
    OM, respect has to be earned. But everyone has the right to be treated with dignity.
    KSS
    4th Jan 2018
    8:49pm
    Have to agree Old Man. The personal abuse from some contributors is is frequently gob-smackingly offensive. Differences in opinion are fair enough - it is only opinion after all - and we are all entitled to express that whether based on facts or otherwise.
    Crafty
    4th Jan 2018
    11:24pm
    KSS, old man, I agree but as oprah used to say, “we do what we know how to do, when we know better, we do better”.
    Kindness begets kindness.
    We all have different histories and we should consider that and not respond in kind to comments we don’t like. I’ve been guilty of that. Take a higher ground and know that offensive comments come from our past histories. If we change our responses then hopefully we all become kinder people and this forum will become more positive.
    Anonymous
    5th Jan 2018
    9:57am
    Sensible comment, Crafty. A much nicer perspective.
    KSS
    5th Jan 2018
    2:25pm
    Actually Crafty that is a misquote from Maya Angelou the author and yes friend of Oprah.
    Crafty
    5th Jan 2018
    2:31pm
    thanks rainey. Thanks KSS, I stand corrected. Great saying though.
    JAID
    5th Jan 2018
    2:50pm
    K-a-L,

    Apt, rational and succinct comment.

    Dignity needs to be maintained. It can be respected regardless of the person.
    Anonymous
    5th Jan 2018
    4:36pm
    Yes, thank you, JAID.
    Charlie
    4th Jan 2018
    3:29pm
    We are all full of niceness here xx

    4th Jan 2018
    4:20pm
    This article suggests viewing the world through rose-coloured glasses. I prefer reality and candour.
    Tib
    4th Jan 2018
    4:59pm
    I agree knows-a-lot we can tell women what they want to hear or we can tell them the truth.
    KSS
    4th Jan 2018
    8:51pm
    There is a big difference between candour and rudeness!
    Tib
    4th Jan 2018
    10:03pm
    KSS women always find candour rude when they don't like what they hear, doesn't make it less true.
    Anonymous
    5th Jan 2018
    12:22pm
    More evidence of knowing little or nothing, Knows-a-lot. It doesn't suggest viewing the world with rose coloured glasses at all. It suggests respecting the knowledge and opinions of others and being polite and respectful. Clearly, university taught you NOTHING. Most graduates have at least learned how to engage in respectful and productive debate.

    Tib, you DO NOT tell women the truth, nor do you tell the ''truth'' about women. You present a biased perspective based on personal experience and VERY WRONGLY and NASTILY imply that all women are the same (or at least the vast majority). It's untruthful. It's sexist. It's rude. It's offensive. And it's totally uncalled for. And no amount of insulting and untruthful postings will make it true or right in any sense. Sadly, it reflects very badly on you. Most of us assume that any bad experience you've had with women was a result of your own appalling behaviour, because no decent woman would want anything to do with you given your horrid denigration of women. Any good woman would run a mile from someone who rants as you do. No wonder you don't know any good women!
    KSS
    5th Jan 2018
    2:30pm
    Rainey. I do wonder what the common denominator is between Tib and all the women in his life who he says were so awful to him. Don't you?
    JAID
    5th Jan 2018
    2:52pm
    "... I prefer reality and candour."

    Likewise
    Crafty
    5th Jan 2018
    2:53pm
    KSS, his mother was his role model. He needs to stop picking women like his mother.
    Unfortunately when you grow up with bad role models or none, you make bad choices in partners until you retrain yourself to know what’s best for you and believe you deserve better. I’m sure many of us have had an unsuitable relationship in the past.
    Emotional pain makes people lash out. Empathy goes a long way.
    JAID
    5th Jan 2018
    2:54pm
    "There is a big difference between candour and rudeness!"

    Exactly. Intention is a key easily dismissed.
    Crafty
    5th Jan 2018
    2:59pm
    I’m not condoning the comments, I’m just trying to understand where they are coming from and hopefully we all gain a new perspective.
    Anonymous
    5th Jan 2018
    5:25pm
    ''Any good man would run a mile from someone who rants and raves as you do, Rainey.''

    They don't. They line up to spend time with me. And they rave about how much they enjoy my company - as do lots of good women, of which there are millions of all ages. Sad that you are so nasty they give you wide berth.
    Crafty
    5th Jan 2018
    9:52pm
    This article is about spreading kindness online.
    Rainey, you dont rant and rave and I enjoy you contributions to this forum.
    LiveItUp
    6th Jan 2018
    7:52am
    Obviously some people need to either clean their glasses or get new ones as the scratches are making them delusional.
    Anonymous
    6th Jan 2018
    8:50am
    "They don't. They line up to spend time with me. And they rave about how much they enjoy my company - as do lots of good women, of which there are millions of all ages."

    Ha ha ha! Dream on, deluded one.

    "Sad that you are so nasty they give you wide berth."

    You know NOTHING about my personal life. All I'll tell you is that you're 100% wrong - again.
    Anonymous
    6th Jan 2018
    8:56am
    @Crafty "This article is about spreading kindness online.
    Rainey, you dont rant and rave and I enjoy you contributions to this forum."

    Where exactly has Rainey been kind? Nowhere here! Of course she does rant and rave, bitching to and about those who take her to task over her verbal diarrhoea.

    "Obviously some people need to either clean their glasses or get new ones as the scratches are making them delusional."

    Referring to Rainey of course. Those wearing the rose-coloured glasses are delusional. Give me reality and candour any day. The reality is that, to quote Jean-Paul Sartre (from the last line of his play "No Exit"), "Hell is other people". And the reality is that Rainey is toxic and delusional.
    Anonymous
    6th Jan 2018
    3:05pm
    Knows-a-lot, I've never been jealous of anyone, but I did always wish I'd been able to go to university. Thank you for making me realize how lucky I was not to! If having a PHD makes people think and speak as you do, I'm sure glad I don't have one.

    On the other hand, I have actually taught, serviced dozens of clients, and sold training materials to people with multiple university degrees, and all of them have given me glowing testimonials and thanked me profusely, so I guess a university education is really worth much less than I once believed.
    Anonymous
    6th Jan 2018
    3:06pm
    Oh, and ask the lovely man who sponsors an orphanage if he thinks I am kind. As I recall, you were very abusive and insulting to that poor fellow, and the reported you for threatening him.
    Tib
    6th Jan 2018
    4:42pm
    Rainey perhaps you should of read the article you seemed to have missed the point. Ha ha
    When I demonstrate my low opinion of many woman I am talking about woman like you. Thank you for continuously proving my point. I hardly have to say anything you do it all for me. :)
    Anonymous
    6th Jan 2018
    6:51pm
    "Knows-a-lot, I've never been jealous of anyone, but I did always wish I'd been able to go to university."

    Never jealous? Yet again, you trumpet your delusion. I suppose you think you're the Messiah returned, oh Perfect One. As for university, none would have you: you are nowhere near smart enough.

    "Thank you for making me realize how lucky I was not to!"

    Now you're trying to justify your own ample inadequacies.

    "If having a PHD makes people think and speak as you do, I'm sure glad I don't have one."

    Having a PhD does not do that. Having to deal with the verbal drivel of idiots like you does. A PhD reveals two things: (1) that the recipient is adept at carrying out research, and (2) that they have made an original contribution to human knowledge. Evidently, I have done both, because I gained that degree in 2003.

    "Oh, and ask the lovely man who sponsors an orphanage if he thinks I am kind. As I recall, you were very abusive and insulting to that poor fellow, and the reported you for threatening him."

    That 'lovely man', Linhmartin, is an abusive oaf. I don't give a tinker's cuss what he (or you) thinks about anything. I let him have it only when I criticized him for being a bludger in getting the pension while being so well-off. I reported HIM for threatening ME! He wanted my address so he could come here to try to beat me up! (Fat chance of that...) He is a total LIAR.

    @Tib "Rainey perhaps you should of read the article you seemed to have missed the point. Ha ha"

    She's very good at missing points. But I admit I'm not the least bit interested in being nice to a noisome creature like her.

    @Tib "When I demonstrate my low opinion of many woman I am talking about woman like you. Thank you for continuously proving my point. I hardly have to say anything you do it all for me."

    I second that wholeheartedly.
    Chris B T
    6th Jan 2018
    8:32am
    The other one is to limit the responses to each post.
    Other wise you endup with people responding to a point of one up personship to extent of
    up themselves.
    You know who they are, so please limit the ramblings.
    (;-(O)
    roy
    6th Jan 2018
    5:39pm
    I do hope you are not talking about MICK.

    6th Jan 2018
    10:50pm
    Not much kindness on YLC! Schoolyard bullies have nothing on the nasties mounting personal vendettas, denigrating ALL women with vile insults, posting nasty and insulting accusations based on wild and totally unsubstantiated assumptions about people they know nothing about, and constantly screaming for anyone who isn't rich to be persecuted and deprived - but bellyaching beyond belief if anyone points to the obscene greed and selfishness of the wealthy, or dares to suggest unaffordable handouts to those with tons of gold should stop.

    What a pity this forum can't be used for productive and respectful discussion that might actually educate and even influence positive change. I'm sure that was the intention of the founders. And there are a few here who contribute positively and politely and who appreciate efforts to engage constructively. Pity the moderators don't take action against the bullies. I just hope nobody who is emotionally fragile ever makes the mistake of expressing an opinion, because the likes of Knows-a-lot and Jim D could easily drive someone to a breakdown or self-harm.

    I think it's past time there was some sensible moderation by the admin. Do they not understand that they can be liable - along with the bully - for hurt caused by online bullying?

    Several have left the site after being targeted in vendettas, and at least one reported being directly threatened with personal harm.

    There will be a tragedy eventually if YLC continues to allow the vicious attacks and personal vendettas that are continuing here lately. Maybe some of you should stop the focus on ''point scoring'' (which generally is making you look disgraceful) and consider the possibility that the person you are attacking might well be struggling with challenges you don't know about, and your vendetta might just be the last straw that causes them to break. Or are you so vile that you'd be pleased for that to happen and you'd find a way to justify your conduct, just as you justify your continued vile and insulting posts?
    Anonymous
    7th Jan 2018
    10:36am
    Reported, Knows-a-lot. Like Jim D, you just don't know when to stop. And conduct like yours and Jim D's WILL eventually result in a tragedy.

    BTW. I saw what you wrote about Linhmartin. It wasn't he who was at fault. Your comment was downright vile and your personal attack on him was totally unwarranted. But you seem to have chased him away, and I am leaving also, because I am disgusted at the bullying that YLC moderators are allowing, and there's just no pleasure in participating now that the site is dominated by people using it to progress vendettas.

    I hope my report will help restore sanity, but I don't hold much hope.
    LiveItUp
    7th Jan 2018
    11:10am
    Unfortunately Rainey from what I have read here you have not acted like a well brought up decent woman would act either. I myself would certainly not have acted like you do and I frown upon any woman who does. It is not the behaviour of a kind generous caring woman at all.
    Anonymous
    7th Jan 2018
    3:00pm
    So you are now the self-appointed 'manners police' Bonny? I found a lot of your comments very offensive and rude also.

    In particular I found it disgusting that you persisted in making false statements about my financial position after being clearly told that you were wrong. And the constant harping about taking from battlers is hurtful to many here. They work hard for what they have and to be told by wealthier folk that they shouldn't be allowed to keep a fair reward for their efforts is deeply hurtful - especially when the topic is their family home, which has a very strong emotional value to those who struggled for a long time to pay it off.

    Regardless, I would NEVER justify the malicious vendettas that have been ongoing over the past few days. And neither should you, if only because online bullying is illegal and very dangerous.

    I'm done with this site, and I will take my complaints about the vicious bullying further. There are lots here whose passion about particular topics leads to over-stepping the mark in comments. Many defend themselves a little too vehemently when offended. But I've been a regular contributor for several years now and I've never before come across anyone who pursued a personal vendetta the way Jim D and Knows-a-lot have, but I have several messages now from past victims - people who continue to read, but have been silenced by malicious attacks. So condone it if you wish, but you are no ''decent well-brought up woman'' if you do.

    BTW. I have received many messages congratulating me on my posts and commenting that I am kind and generous. I do try to be - most of the time. But I admit to being much kinder to people who treat me with respect, and rather intolerant of those who constantly denigrate and support depriving the less affluent in our society. And I am VERY intolerant of dishonesty. I find the repeated knowingly untruthful claims about my financial status and insistence that having an opinion proves lies to be truths EXTREMELY rude and offensive.
    LiveItUp
    7th Jan 2018
    11:06pm
    Good to hear Rainey.
    Anonymous
    8th Jan 2018
    4:05pm
    The only creature driving anyone here to self-harm is the bilious Rainey, who never ceases to spew vast amounts of total garbage.
    Anonymous
    8th Jan 2018
    4:06pm
    "Unfortunately Rainey from what I have read here you have not acted like a well brought up decent woman would act either. I myself would certainly not have acted like you do and I frown upon any woman who does. It is not the behaviour of a kind generous caring woman at all."

    Spot on, Bonny. Bravo!
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    11:43am
    The hypocritical Rainey thinks she is the Manners Police. She's all over YLC like a nasty rash, bitching about anyone who doesn't agree with her on everything.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    2:13pm
    It was Bonny who presumed to be the ''manners police'', Knows-a-lot. But you are extraordinarily rude.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    5:29pm
    No, you - the rudest creature on the planet - think you're the Manners Police. Anyway, I'm happy to be as rude as possibly can be to an idiot like Rainey.
    maxchugg
    7th Jan 2018
    12:45pm
    Some of those who are now promoting courtesy and kindness have administered to me many a dose of nasty, ad hominem attacks, and remind me of what Robbie Burns wrote:

    O wad some Power the giftie gie us
    To see oursels as ithers see us!
    It wad frae mony a blunder free us,
    An' foolish notion
    Anonymous
    7th Jan 2018
    3:09pm
    There are a couple of other famous quotes, maxxchugg:

    ''Let he who is without sin cast the first stone''.

    and

    "People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones''.

    I guess nobody here lives in a glass house.
    Old Geezer
    8th Jan 2018
    10:41am
    Most people don't throw stones either these days either.
    maxchugg
    8th Jan 2018
    11:17am
    Sounds like I hit a nerve!
    Anonymous
    8th Jan 2018
    12:07pm
    You and Bonny throw stones constantly, OG. Bashing everyone who isn't as wealthy as you two with demands that hard workers be deprived of their dignity and everything they own so the rich can keep partying.
    Anonymous
    8th Jan 2018
    4:07pm
    Rainey has an olympic gold medal in stone-chucking.
    maxchugg
    9th Jan 2018
    9:46am
    When I made my first comment I had three people in mind, and, as expected, two of them jumped straight in with comments typical of what I had experienced from them in the past.

    Having totally lost track of the subject under discussion, netiquette, they also tossed in the name of the third person I had in mind,who was not Knows-a-lot.

    So, thank you, Rainey and Old Geezer, for the support you provided for the view which I presented.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    11:44am
    Well said, maxchugg!
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    2:22pm
    I don't recall ever making any nasty comment to you, maxchugg. I've responded often to OG and Bonny, and recently to Knows-a-lot - who is very INSULTING and RUDE.

    I do go in hard in defence of those who are unfairly denigrated, the disadvantaged, and those who suffer injustice or gross unfairness. Sorry if that offends some. I also defend strenuously when personally attacked - and launching nasty personal attacks seems to be a sport on YLC, particularly by women-haters, the selfish well-to-do who insist the less wealthy should be continually denigrated and deprived, and a few others who just don't seem to have good comprehension.

    There are only a few, like Knows-a-lot, who mount and continue a personal vendetta for no good reason. Most here recognize that it's a diverse world and we have to often agree to disagree. While we may get fired up in a debate, it's no cause to progress an ongoing hate campaign against someone merely because they have some strong opinions.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    5:36pm
    Rainey: Blah blah blah blah blah... What a HYPOCRITE you are - INSULTING, RUDE, and BLOCKHEADED. As for personal vendettas, that's what you've waged on Tib, me and others. I'm just fighting back.

    PS: I don't mind people having strong opinions. I do mind if those opinions are ill-informed, and/or the holder objects to diametrically opposed opinions and FACTS.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    7:05pm
    Looks to me like you resent my intelligence and are annoyed that I present logical and fact-based argument, Knows-nothing. I can sympathize, Must be frustrating to be incapable of contributing productively, and only capable of insulting and bullying.

    I didn't wage any ''personal vendetta'' on anyone. I just defended against a vile sexist attack that was totally irrational. But you couldn't even accept that a statement made about people I know was not rendered dishonest by claims about people I DON'T know. You completely misinterpreted that statement.

    Clearly you DO mind people having strong opinions. And I'll object to diametrically opposed opinions any time I see flaws in the argument. Contrary to your apparent belief, you are not the supreme master of all knowledge. Frankly, I don't think your claimed education did you much good at all.
    Anonymous
    15th Jan 2018
    7:38pm
    Resent your intelligence? What intelligence? You haven't displayed any. And you wouldn't know logic or intelligence if they hit you on your head, Pluvial Dimwit. As for productive contributions, I've made quite a few here. And your capacity for insulting and bullying people is second to none.

    "I didn't wage any ''personal vendetta'' on anyone."

    Are you kidding? You've done nothing but that to me.

    "I just defended against a vile sexist attack that was totally irrational."

    Rubbish! All you've done is make vile male-hating attacks on Tib and me that are totally irrational.

    "But you couldn't even accept that a statement made about people I know was not rendered dishonest by claims about people I DON'T know. You completely misinterpreted that statement."

    Gibberish. What you did was make illogical generalizations on the basis of the relatively small number of people you know. Your statement was crystal clear to me.

    "Clearly you DO mind people having strong opinions."

    WRONG. I DO mind strong opinions founded, like yours, on ignorance.

    "And I'll object to diametrically opposed opinions any time I see flaws in the argument."

    ... which is precisely what I've done in relation to your opinionated, ill-informed garbage.

    "Contrary to your apparent belief, you are not the supreme master of all knowledge."

    I do not believe that about myself, but clearly you do about yourself.

    "Frankly, I don't think your claimed education did you much good at all."

    Frankly, I don't care in the slightest what an unqualified ignoramus like you opines about anything. (I refuse to dignify your pseudo-mentation with the label 'thought'.) As for my education, it has resulted in me writing six books - six more than you've probably ever read. How many books have you written, Pluvial oaf?
    Shetso1
    8th Jan 2018
    10:55am
    Decent fair ntelligent active moderation of any forum site would quickly weed out the handful of psychopaths that are almost magnetically drawn to forum sites like 'moths to a flame' ....

    The Meeting Place forum of YLC is a case in point and can barely be tolerated by most hence it limps along like a festering sore.

    Decent fair intelligent active moderation would make a difference.
    Anonymous
    8th Jan 2018
    4:01pm
    The moderators here need to weed out Rainey, with her endless male-hating bile.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    11:46am
    Trouble is, the moderators have a feminist bias, and so let the feminist crazies continue to vomit their poisonous garbage.
    Shetso1
    9th Jan 2018
    12:13pm
    Yeah well very likely Rainey and I would agree on a lot so have no issue on that score so unlikely you'll get me to badmouth him or her on your account .....

    Just thinking the Moderators seem virtually absent from any active moderation most on the time.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    2:10pm
    Pot calling kettle black, Knows Nothing. I am NOT a male hater. I just defended women against yours and Tib's vile, indiscriminate, persistent, and totally unjustified attack on ALL females. Truth is, I'e only ever encountered a tiny handful of objectionable males - all on this forum. Every man I know personally is worthy of being deeply loved, greatly appreciates women (especially his wife if he has one), and would be very quick to defend the fairer sex against attacks like yours and Tib's. But I appreciate that you both had bad experiences. It's just sad that you don't recognize that most bad experiences men have with women are because of the way men treat them.

    Happily, Shetso1, after I made a report the moderators do appear to have deleted a significant number of posts wherein someone nasty (not Knows-a-lot) progressed a particularly lengthy, vehement and dishonest vendetta against me, sourcing quotes from all over the place and posting them out of context to create a grossly distorted impression. I was advised the posts were defamatory and both the poster and YLC could be liable for damages. Not that's I'd bother, but YLC were wise to act I think. Besides, I know of a someone who committed suicide after precisely that sort of attack, and another who is under medical supervision to prevent him self-harming in response to a similar vendetta. What was astonishing is that the attack was completely irrational, as I had done no more than politely disagree with a post by someone I normally defend.
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    5:38pm
    Hey shetso, I don't expect you to badmouth Rainey on my account. I can do that myself.

    "Pot calling kettle black, Knows Nothing. I am NOT a male hater."

    YOU are the know-nothing. You're a MISANDRIST and you don't even know that!
    Anonymous
    9th Jan 2018
    6:59pm
    Nothing better to do than abuse and insult, Knows-a-lot? With all your claimed education, I would have thought we could expect an occasional constructive suggestion, backed up by logical argument.
    Anonymous
    15th Jan 2018
    7:45pm
    I enjoy insulting a purulent, ignorant, misandrist hussy like you, Pluvial. As for my claimed education, it is real: BMus(Hons) 1st class + Medal, USyd (1980-1985); PhD, USyd (1993-2001); FBCPS (1988-).

    "I would have thought we could expect an occasional constructive suggestion, backed up by logical argument."

    I've made plenty of logical and constructive suggestions on YourLifeChoices. Here's another: Sod off, and inflict yourself on some other poor unsuspecting dupes on another site.


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